How To Breathe With Intention To Reduce Stress

How To Breathe With Intention To Reduce Stress

Why focus on intentional breathing? Many people have the wrong conception of what mindfulness practice or meditation is really all about. It’s not about shutting out bodily sensation. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. We stop and sit and feel deeply the sensations of the body, of the senses. To breathe with intention is to rediscover this connection between the mind and body. Deliberate breathing is not only a means of connecting with ourselves, but it also helps our brain and body relax. Let’s explore how to breathe with intention by incorporating ancient (yet simple) mindful breathing techniques but also by looking at what science has to say about it.

 

What is deliberate breathing?

 

Deliberate breathing or intentional breathing starts with simple awareness of the breath. In its most basic form, deliberate breathing is noticing that you are breathing and what it feels like. This brings you instantly into the present moment. Then, with practice, we can breathe with intention by leveraging intentional breathing exercises (more on these below) and layering in some science-backed protocols to make the most of each breath.

 

Our modern culture has weakened our ability to pay attention to our surroundings and the sensations of our mind and body. Too often, we’re focused outward—on the news, our chores, and, more generally, what we should be doing next. The human respiratory system is the product of millions of years of evolution. It’s truly an amazing thing! 

 

Did you know that lung capacity is a stronger prediction of life span than genetics, diet, or exercise?¹

 

The breath is also the most neutral thing for us to concentrate on. There are no concepts, no set of beliefs to stand in our way. This is why there is absolutely no need to follow any set of precepts; religious or otherwise, to breathe with intention and reap the benefits of doing so. If we can take one mindful breath, one mindful step, then we can take another and another. Start right here, right now.

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The importance of intentional breathing

 

The most immediate way to breathe with intention is to pay attention to the simple and profound act of breathing. The very notion of spirit arose from the experience of breathing. The testimony of all who have practiced meditation in the Hindu, Buddhist, and Sufi traditions is that the dimension of spirit is as close to us and immediately available as the act of breathing. 

 

Breathing is at once ordinary and revelatory, a natural and supernatural experience. By paying attention to the cadence of breathing, we allow respiration to become automatic, which in turn expands the focal length of the mind.

 

It sounds funny to talk about ‘discovering breathing’ since we have all done it from the moment of birth. But breathing is like dreaming. It yields its spiritual treasure only when we practice the unnatural discipline of bringing into consciousness what has normally remained unconscious. 

 

The beauty of experimenting with intentional breathing is that it requires no belief, no faith, no dogma, no authority. The discipline of paying attention to the breath probably comes as near as we can get to a genuine technique⁠—a prescribed procedure that yields an assured result.

 

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The science of the breath 

 

In his book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, James Nestor does an excellent job of distilling decades of research on breathing into an accessible and digestible format. He reveals practices that we can easily and instantly begin to implement, such as the claim that the optimum length for both inhales and exhales is about 5.5 seconds for most people. 

 

He discusses the misconception surrounding a simple gas exchange that leads most people to believe that getting more oxygen is essential for healthy breathing. However, this is not the case. In fact, in aerobic breathing (as opposed to anaerobic breathing), which is arguably the most efficient rate of breathing for exercise, oxygen is burned and carbon dioxide is used. 

 

Nestor explains that to breathe with intention we should focus on quantity. We should aim to breathe, of course, but to breathe less. Breathing slower with fewer breaths is typically better than taking deep breaths to reduce anxiety. 

 

Modern diets and technology have eroded our ability to breathe naturally. The softer foods introduced at the agricultural revolution have weakened and altered the shape of our jaw and facial structure. This makes us more prone to mouth breathing, which is not good.² Nasal breathing is much better for almost everyone. The nose is a highly evolved mechanism designed for breathing. It cools, filters, and conditions the breath for optimal intake by the rest of our respiratory system. 

 

Did you know that there are even unique advantages to breathing through one nostril versus the other? 

 

Breathing through the left nostril cools the body and can have anxiety-reducing effects.³

 

Breathing through the right nostril puts the body in a more elevated state of alertness.

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Intentional breathing exercises

 

How to breathe with intention:

 

  1. Sit quietly and pay attention to your breathing. Nothing else. At first, you will find that your mind wanders, and you will be unable to concentrate on following the flow of the breath. Bring your attention back to your breath. When you are able to hold your attention there for a while, you will become aware that you are exerting a lot of effort. Breathing seems to require a lot of willpower. It is work. 
  2. Find a rhythm. Gradually, you will notice that the rhythm of your breathing lengthens, grows slow, and your body softens and begins to allow the breath to flow. After a long while, you will feel yourself being breathed.
  3. Start at the belly. Begin your inhale at the very base of your belly. This is the one time you want your belly to stick out! As your belly fully expands, let the breath continue to rise up into your chest. Eventually, this may remind you of gentle, rolling waves on the ocean’s surface. 
  4. Notice how you feel. As you surrender to the movement of the breath, who you are changes. Where you were once acting, now you seem moved by a power beyond yourself. Your breath tells you that you are the same substance as the spirit that moves all of life. I guess this explains why I find it so much easier to focus on my breath when I find a quiet place in nature; in a green field, by a river or brook, on a mountain, or in the woods.

 

Breathe with intention of compassion

 

Now that we’ve passed Breathing 101 – ‘How To Breathe With Intention’, we proceed to the more advanced course: ‘Breathing 202 – ‘Inspiration and Compassion’. Add attention with intention and you have the formula for going beyond connection with yourself to a more moral experience—for developing compassion. This is what loving-kindness meditation is all about. It combines the power of attention with intention: the intention to wish that everyone on this planet may be both loved and protected.

 

In the varieties of Buddhism in which meditation is central, the rhythm of inhale and exhale is used to expand the boundaries of the self and the circle of care. As I inhale, I try to be aware of and thankful for all that is relatively good in my life. As I exhale, I send out my gratitude, my energy, my compassion to anyone out there suffering.

 

Here’s a simple meditation to try:

 

  1. Breathing in, I accept the gift of life. 
  2. Breathing out, I surrender, cease grasping, and give my care back into the world. 
  3. Allowing and surrendering, I experience something deeper than my ego moving me. 

 

How deliberate breathing relieves stress

 

The exercise of deliberate breathing—of noticing, settling into the breath, and gradually entering into its slow and deep rhythm activates the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS). The parasympathetic nervous system is also known as the ‘rest and digest’ half of the nervous system. The other half, the sympathetic nervous system, is often dubbed the ‘fight or flight’ side of the nervous system. These labels, though admittedly over simplifications, provide immediate insight into how activating the PNS helps reduce stress. 

 

The amazing part is that the breath is a means to activate the PNS. And, as we know, unlike other core bodily functions, we are in complete control over the breath. This means that deliberate breathing to reduce stress is accessible anywhere, anytime. 

 

To illustrate just how accessible the stress-reducing effects of intentional can be, check out this short video from Dr. Andrew Huberman, neuroscientist and professor at the Stanford University School of Medicine, where he explains the physiological sigh. The physiological sigh is a quick, specific breathing technique that you can deploy in the heat of the moment to reduce anxiety and stress. 

Breathe with intention and reap the benefits

 

Finally, our course Breathing 202 – ‘Inspiration and Compassion’ and the short loving-kindness meditation described above could lead to tangible health benefits.

 

Researchers have found that a sense of happiness which is built upon a foundation of service to and connection with others has greater physiological health benefits than a sense of happiness founded on the gratification of personal desires:

 

“[researchers] Coleman and Frederickson found that people who were happy because they lived a life of pleasure (sometimes also known as “hedonic happiness”) had high inflammation levels; on the other hand, people who were happy because they lived a life of purpose or meaning (sometimes also known as “eudaimonic happiness”) had low inflammation levels.”

Compassionate Mind, Healthy Body – Greater Good Magazine, Berkeley

As we practice deliberate breathing, we’re reminded moment by moment that the essence of existence is the practice of gratitude and compassion. We are alive only in the degree that we’re moved by the tidal rhythm of receiving and giving: receiving the gift of life, and giving back my compassion for anyone who is struggling. 

 

References:

 

  • according to the researchers: W. B. Kannel et al., “Vital Capacity as a Predictor of Cardiovascular Disease: The Framingham Study,” American Heart Journal 105, no. 2 (Feb. 1983): 311–15; William B. Kannel and Helen Hubert, “Vital Capacity as a Biomarker of Aging,” in Biological Markers of Aging, ed. Mitchell E. Reff and Edward L. Schneider, NIH Publication no. 82-2221, Apr. 1982, 145–60.
  • changes the physical body: A few of the better studies: Cristina Grippaudo et al., “Association between Oral Habits, Mouth Breathing and Malocclusion,” Acta Otorhinolaryngologica Italica 36, no. 5 (Oct. 2016): 386–94; Yosh Jefferson, “Mouth Breathing: Adverse Effects on Facial Growth, Health, Academics, and Behavior,” General Dentistry 58, no. 1 (Jan.–Feb. 2010): 18–25; Doron Harari et al., “The Effect of Mouth Breathing versus Nasal Breathing on Dentofacial and Craniofacial Development in Orthodontic Patients,” Laryngoscope 120, no. 10 (Oct. 2010): 2089–93; Valdenice Aparecida de Menezes, “Prevalence and Factors Related to Mouth Breathing in School Children at the Santo Amaro Project—Recife, 2005,” Brazilian Journal of Otorhinolaryngology 72, no. 3 (May–June 2006): 394–98.
  • lowers temperature and blood pressure: P. Raghuraj and Shirley Telles, “Immediate Effect of Specific Nostril Manipulating Yoga Breathing Practices on Autonomic and Respiratory Variables,” Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback 33, no. 2 (June 2008): 65–75. S. Kalaivani, M. J. Kumari, and G. K. Pal, “Effect of Alternate Nostril Breathing Exercise on Blood Pressure, Heart Rate, and Rate Pressure Product among Patients with Hypertension in JIPMER, Puducherry,” Journal of Education and Health Promotion 8, no. 145 (July 2019).

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The Way Of Chuang Tzu & Four Practices Of Taoism

The Way Of Chuang Tzu & Four Practices Of Taoism

Who was Chuang Tzu? He was a champion of the individual, he drew lines in the sand against established power structures, and he often used humor and colorful paradox to convey his teachings. He was an influential Chinese philosopher who lived around the 4th century BC. Chuang Tzu (or Zhuangzi) was a key contributor to what is known as a golden age of Chinese philosophy. He wrote (although scholars debate exactly which portions he wrote himself) a book known by his name, the Zhuangzi, which is one of a few fundamental texts of Taoism. Let’s explore the man, the way of Chuang Tzu, and a few fundamental practices of Taoism. 

 

Taoism, the philosophical school with which Chuang Tzu is most associated, was not a predominant one during his time. In fact, Taoism had not yet evolved into the balance of forces, the emphasis of flow, or the fidelity to one’s own nature as we know it today. The prevalent philosophical school of Chuang Tzu’s time was Confucianism, one that he openly criticized with humor and wit.

 

The way of Chuang Tzu: Embracing one’s own true nature

 

Chuang Tzu saw absolute power as a problem, and promoted the idea that individuals have the right to seek their own salvation. This emancipation of the individual and self-expression were central tenets of his school of thought. Chuang Tzu rejected the position that the human spirit is fundamentally evil, as was held by philosophers planted atop the power structure who believed that the only way to overcome our tainted essence was through brutal rule. 

 

Chuang Tzu’s primary objection to this idea is rooted in the fact that absolute rulers essentially attempt to tame or harness the true nature of all aspects of creation. He famously rejected positions of power when offered to him. He likened political positions to a sacrificial ox, decorated in lavish garments, but ultimately trapped inside the temple once the gates close behind him.

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The subtle, mystical and sophisticated thought of Chuang Tzu has left an indelible mark on Chinese culture and the Chinese character itself. There is little doubt that this type of thinking and culture that Chuang Tzu espoused had a transformative effect on Taoism and later Zen Buddhism in China, Korea and Japan. This influence was one that received a highly hypothetical and conservative Indian Buddhism and molded it to coexist with humor and criticism. Many scholars credit these qualities of Taoism for having influenced and evolved into Zen Buddhism

 

What did Chuang Tzu believe?

 

Peace of mind comes not from the absence of conflict but rather from the acceptance of it. There will always be hurdles along the path of life. Most of us are at war with reality. Problems will come our way. If there were no mountains to climb, then the world would only be an arid desert, void of all life. This does not mean that we should not work toward solving problems that come our way. Quite the opposite is true. 

 

We need the courage to change the things we can, but also acceptance of what we cannot change—and the wisdom to know the difference. And wisdom is key here. How do we acquire this wisdom? By getting to know ourselves and the world around us and paying close attention to our experiences. Chuang Tzu taught that ‘when the mind is still, the whole universe surrenders.’

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The way of Chuang Tzu: Flow

 

Chuang Tzu is known for many things. His rejection of logic and his embrace of eclecticism and his sense of humor are among them. However, I’d like to touch on one idea that is closely associated with the man and with Taoism practices. The idea is encapsulated in the phrase ‘wu-wei’, which is usually translated as ‘actionless action’ or ‘non-doing’. Chuang Tzu provides us with a brief passage to describe this concept: 

 

“Heaven produces nothing,

Yet all life is transformed;

Earth does not support, 

Yet all life is sustained,

The Emperor and the king take actionless action, 

Yet the whole world is served.”

 

To peel away the oxymoronic layers of this concept, we can see underneath a prescription to take no action that is not in accord with nature. To peel away yet another layer, we see that it means action without struggling against the idea of action. Doing the dishes is not a difficult activity. Yet when we are tired from a long day of other tasks, the dishes may seem daunting. We may struggle against the idea of doing the dishes rather than flowing with the nature of the water, soap, and the gentle movement our bodies generate.

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An imperfect, contemporary label for ‘wu-wei’ is flow state. This is the condition that you have likely experienced one time or another. You get lost in your work and the output of your effort just seems to happen. Among athletes in particular this is also called ‘the zone’. It is characterized by a loss of awareness of time, not thinking about the activity as it is being performed, and a spontaneous creativity.

 

Four practices of Taoism

 

Like most ancient writing on Taoism, it is difficult to discern who developed these four practices of Taoism. Some attribute them to Lao Tzu. Some maintain that Lao Tzu was a fictional character. Either way, they are not dissimilar to the Four Stoic Virtues, in that they serve as moral signposts for living life in accordance with nature. Here are four principles of Taoism:

 

Kindness

 

Kindness in words creates confidence;

Kindness in thinking creates wisdom;

Kindness in giving creates love. 

 

Essentially, being gentle means giving up the need to be right; being kind is more important than being correct and asserting your own beliefs. When we are gentle, we stop trying to dominate others and instead live in harmony with others. Empty your boat!

 

Natural Serenity

 

When pure sincerity (authenticity) forms within, it is outwardly realized in other people’s hearts. Without being authentic, we can’t live in harmony. Being swayed by outside forces makes us lose sight of who we really are and who we want to be. By accepting the truth about ourselves and others, we not only find peace in this life but we can help others along their paths as well.

 

Reverence For All Life

 

Living in the moment brings you a sense of reverence for all of life’s blessings. Chuang Tzu believed that respecting all forms of life was essential for harmony: “All creation and creatures are equally important and they require equal respect.” Trying to dominate and control life only leads you away from harmony and balance. You can’t find peace in the midst of a struggle for control. A truly spiritual perspective tells us that love is freedom.

 

Supportiveness

 

Be supportive, but let go of the outcome, even when it comes to helping others. Just like the other practices of Taoism, supportiveness applies to everything and everyone, including ourselves. It allows us to come from a healthier place and be there for others who might need help along their own path.

 

This comes naturally to everyone, but society—the cold conditioning we’ve received as adults and our modern culture—teaches us something different. Sink or swim—everyone for themselves. But supporting others and ourselves brings about the highest happiness.

The way of Chuang Tzu in his own words

 

Mindfulness and the Eastern philosophy that has developed and propagated it are drawn upon fundamentally in the writing of The Mindful Stoic blog. I thought it would be entertaining to explore the life of an influential and colorful figure of Eastern thought. I hope I was able to provide a very brief presentation of Taoism and the characteristics thereof that evolved into current schools such as Zen Buddhism. When philosophical teachings on how to operate within the human condition are passed down and remain after millenia, I think they’re worth exploring and sharing. I’ll end by sharing some Chuang Tzu quotes. 

 

For more on Taosim and Chuang Tzu check out our article 13 Principles For Practicing Taoism or the books The Way Of Chuang Tzu by Thomas Merton, The Book Of Chuang Tzu by Martin Palmer and Elizabeth Breuilly, or the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu.

 

If a man is crossing a river

And an empty boat collides with his own skiff,

Even though he be a bad-tempered man,

He will not be angry.

But, if he sees a man in the boat,

He will shout for him to stay clear.

If the shout is not heard, he will shout again 

And yet again, and begin cursing. 

And all because there is somebody in the boat.

Yet, if the boat is empty

He would not be shouting and not be angry.

 

If you can empty your own boat 

Crossing the river of the world,

No one will oppose you, 

No one will seek to harm you.

 

When the heart is right, ‘for’ and ‘against’ are forgotten.

 

Silence is a great source of strength.

To the mind that is still, 

the whole universe surrenders.

 

Nothing is softer or more flexible

than water yet, 

nothing can resist it.

 

Nature does not hurry,

yet everything is accomplished.

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The Story Of The Buddha & The Human Condition

The Story Of The Buddha & The Human Condition

According to most accounts, the Buddha started out in life as a wealthy prince named Siddhartha. His father, the king, indulged him in every luxury imaginable while keeping all signs of human suffering outside the palace walls hidden away from him. But one day, Siddhartha slipped past the palace guards and ventured out into the real world where, to his dismay, he observed abject poverty, a sick man, and a dead man. He had no idea that humans got sick and died! It was a shock to him; so much so, that he silently slipped away into the night, leaving all his wealth and his luxurious lifestyle, his wife and child behind him, in search for answers to the human condition.

 

How much is myth and how much is truth we shall never know, but his teachings were recorded, at first orally, and then written down and expanded on over the millennia. He did seem to find fundamental answers to the questions of how to transcend the inherent suffering of being human, or what is often referred to as ‘the human condition’.

 

Suffering and the human condition

 

On his quest to find a solution to the problem of suffering inherent in the human condition, the Buddha first encountered a guru in the forest. This guru underwent deep meditation in order to block out his bodily senses and mental formations and find a great stillness within; supposedly merging his inner being or soul with the soul of the universe. In essence, the practice was to cease bodily and mental states in order to acquire an inner calm.

 

The Buddha was very good at it; so good, in fact, that his guru offered him his own position as leader of a group of like-minded souls in search of truth and inner peace. However, the Buddha became dissatisfied with this approach. He found that when he came out of his meditative state, the problems of being human and the inevitability of suffering still remained. So, he abandoned this path and moved on in his quest.

 

Austerities

 

Next, he joined a group of five ascetics or renouncers. They believed in punishing the body to burn off bad elements of their souls, using extreme measures for the purpose of expanding the soul to the size of the universe, and thus attaining enlightenment, which at the time meant freeing themselves from the endless cycle of samsara; the endless cycle of re-birth and death. The Buddha engaged in this practice for six years. He sat in the blazing heat of the sun for hours on end, walked around naked, and he ate only one grain of rice a day. It is said that he could feel his backbone through his stomach.

The human condition and Buddha nature

Finally, the Buddha found that the physical pain was actually clouding his mind, instead of bringing him clarity, or any form of release from suffering. In fact, he concluded that the austerities weren’t providing him with a solution to suffering; rather they were making him suffer even more. So he abandoned the path of self-denial by eating a bowl of rice porridge, disappointing and angering his five fellow renouncers. Six years of penance had all come to nothing.

 

Radical moderation

 

What he attempted next was something new. A middle way between self-indulgence and the rigours of self-mortification. Moderation would be his radical new approach from now on. The Buddha’s change of tact would bring a greater clarity to his examination of the human condition. The Buddha came to believe that our minds determine what kind of experiences we have. Throughout history, many others have acknowledged this fundamental truth (especially the Stoics).

 

Using his meditation skills, he examined the internal workings of his own mind. And what the Buddha discovered contradicted the assumptions people held about the permanence of the ‘soul’, or of the self. He realized that the external world, as we experience it, was constantly changing and that we were constantly changing too! Our material form (body), our feelings, our perceptions, our mental formations, and our consciousness were all in perpetual flux. In Buddhism, this is called impermanence. Therefore, all efforts to identify a permanent self were futile, because a permanent or independent ‘self’ did not exist. Furthermore, identification with the self as a completely isolated entity caused suffering. This is why the Buddha said, ‘Nothing is to be clung to as ‘I, me, or mine.’

 

The Buddha had this realisation and came to believe that the idea of a permanent self was not the solution to the problem of the human condition but instead, was the root of human suffering, because it made us selfish and self-absorbed.

 

The delusion of an independent self

 

The idea of a permanent self created insatiable cravings that enslaved us to transient, earthly concerns and kept us trapped in samsara. To rid oneself of this deep-seated delusion of independent self was the way to liberation. That realisation would allow one the freedom to not be caught in the ‘I, me, or mine’ which is really the fundamental cause of suffering. The Buddha came to believe that there is a way or path to overcoming suffering. His teaching would be based on rediscovering our true nature, which is referred to as ‘non-self nature’.

 

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If we could extinguish the delusion of self, we could see things as they truly are and our suffering would end. We have, then, the capacity to take control over our own lives. He realised that there is a plasticity to our minds and character and that living in the world with the right attitude is fundamentally empowering. He was saying, ‘know yourself and the world is yours’, like the other great thinkers of his time: Socrates, Lao Tzu, and Confucius. It is cognitive psychology twenty-five centuries before the term was invented.

 

A scientific take on the human condition

 

Carl Sagan writes, “Our brain compares, synthesises, analyzes, and generates abstractions. We must figure out much more than our genes can know. That is why the brain library is some ten thousand times larger than the gene library. Our passion for learning, evident in the behaviour of every toddler, is the tool for our survival. Emotions and ritualised behaviour are built deeply into us. They are part of our humanity. But they are not characteristically human. Many other animals have feelings. What distinguishes our species is thought. The cerebral cortex is a liberation. We need no longer be trapped in the genetically inherited behaviour patterns of lizards and baboons. We are, each of us, largely responsible for what gets put into our brains, for what, as adults, we wind up caring for and knowing about. No longer at the mercy of the reptile brain, we can change ourselves.”

 

It is important to clarify the notion of non-self nature. It is not denying that you exist but rather denying that you are an intrinsically independent entity. You cannot just ‘be’ by yourself; rather you have to ‘inter-be’, a word coined by Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh. The nature of our world, our universe, our reality, is that nothing can exist without every other thing existing.

 

The first part of Buddhist meditation is asking ourselves the basic question: ‘Who am I?’ This practice is meant to help us see beyond the ‘illusion’ or ‘delusion’ of a separate and permanent self. Are we totally separate from the natural world and all other beings? Is our self, as we perceive it, fixed and permanent, or are we always changing? The Buddha found answers to all these questions.

 

The Four Noble Truths

 

At the moment of his awakening at the foot of the Bodhi tree, the Buddha declared, ‘How strange—all beings possess the capacity to be awakened, to understand, to love, to be free—yet they allow themselves to be carried away on the ocean of suffering.’ He saw that night and day we are seeking what is already there in each of us. In Buddhism, it is referred to as Buddha nature or awakened nature. After his awakening under the Bodhi tree, the Buddha sought out his five former renouncers. At first, they rejected him with scorn, but soon they could see that a fundamental change had occurred in him. What he revealed to them was revolutionary.

 

The human condition and Buddha

He had simplified the solution to the problems of the human condition into what he called the Four Noble Truths:

 

The First Noble Truth simply stated that human suffering was inevitable. ‘There is suffering’. To be human is to suffer. We all experience it.

 

The Second Noble Truth identified the causes of suffering: craving, delusion and ignorance.

 

The Third Noble Truth was the critical step. The Buddha taught that since there was an identifiable cause for suffering, then there had to be an identifiable method for ending human suffering. 

 

The Eightfold Path

 

The Fourth Noble Truth was the path to the end of suffering, what the Buddha called the Eightfold Path: The Fourth Noble Truth was a systematic approach to the end of human suffering, which is often referred to as dukka, meaning the dispelling of ignorance and the liberation of the mind. Mindfulness is the one element of the path unifying and informing all the others. The eight practices are:

 

Wise thought | wise view | wise speech | wise action | wise effort | wise livelihood | wise concentration | wise mindfulness

 

Mindfulness is the unifier

 

Each of these practices contains all the others. They are different aspects of a unified whole. Thich Nhat Hanh writes, ‘When Right Mindfulness is present, the Four Noble Truths and the Seven other elements of the Eightfold Path are also present.’ By living in the present moment and actually ‘living’ our lives rather than constantly ‘judging’ our lives, judging all of our experiences as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ (grasping and aversion); by living in the present moment in real time rather than living in the past and/or the future, we can alleviate much of our own suffering as well as the suffering of others. The Buddha emphasized compassion as well as integrity and wisdom.

 

The Buddha and his followers mapped out an actual practice in order to overcome human suffering. This is often called Mindfulness. There are many self-help gurus today, who tell us that we need to live in the present moment and that our attitude is important in cultivating better lives. However, they do not actually lay out a practical method for achieving these goals. The Buddha did. Anyone who has seriously tried meditative practices, like sitting meditation, walking meditation, and trying to live mindfully, knows how extremely frustrating it can be. But, I will tell you from my own experience, that although difficult, it is well worth the effort.

 

Cultivating the seeds of our Buddha nature

 

The Buddha also believed that beauty and goodness are always there within each of us (often referred to as Buddha nature or basic goodness). This is the basic teachings of the Buddha. A true spiritual teacher is one who encourages us to look deeply in ourselves for the beauty and the love that we are seeking. The true teacher is someone who helps you to discover the teacher in yourself. According to the Buddha, the birth of a human being is not a beginning but a continuation, and when we’re born, all the different kinds of seeds—seeds of goodness, of cruelty, of awakening—are already in us.

We do not have to believe in reincarnation or previous lives in order to understand this. Even if we only believe in science, of our own genetic codes, we can see that we have inherited many seeds. Whether the goodness or cruelty in us is revealed depends on what seeds we cultivate, our actions, and our way of life. Buddhist mindfulness practices and its emphasis on compassion, integrity, and wisdom can help us cultivate seeds that not only alleviates our own suffering, caused by delusion and ignorance, but also the suffering of others.

 

The map of the human condition

 

The Buddha had no instruments other than his own mind to work with and chose to look deeply into the nature of birth and death and the inevitability of human suffering. He learned through extreme effort to stabilize his own mind in order to look deeply into the universe and the vast array of interconnected phenomena within it. The Buddha and his followers explored the nature of mind and the nature of life. Their efforts led to remarkable discoveries. The Buddhists successfully mapped out a guide or map which is quintessentially human; aspects of the mind that we all have in common as humans, regardless of our beliefs or cultural backgrounds.

 

These discoveries can be explored by anyone, anytime, anywhere and we can learn for ourselves what is to be found. Therefore, we all have the ability to become our own teachers, which is exactly what the Buddha suggested and taught from the beginning.

 

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13 Principles For Practicing Taoism

13 Principles For Practicing Taoism

What is Taoism? The confusing aspect for many is its definition. Many religions teach philosophy and dogma. But Taoism and Zen stand this tendency on its head. The first chapter of the Tao Te Ching simply states that that the Tao is indefinableteaching that each person can discover the Tao for themselves. Most people have a tendency to grasp after concrete definitions and conclude that without rules and dogma the Tao is impossible to ‘grasp’. But, ‘grasping’ is an impediment to self-realisation. Here are three easy steps to begin practicing Taoism. 

1. Don’t concentrate on the meaning of Tao. 

2. Taoism is more than a philosophy or religion. It is to be understood as a ‘way’ of being.

3. The path of understanding Taoism is accepting yourself. Live your life and discover who you are for yourself. Your nature is ever-changing and at the same time is always the same. This, however, is paradox: something that the human mind resists. But if we examine most spiritual and religious traditions they all have one element in commonthe embracing of paradoxfor the human condition, itself, is a paradox. Don’t try to resolve the various paradoxes of liferather, accept them. You will find the Tao Te Ching chock-full of paradoxes. Embrace them.

Practicing Taoism

 

Taoism teaches a person to flow with life. Taoism doesn’t apply labels to its nature, because it would limit a person. This philosophy teaches us to live in the heart. It teaches that by living you will express your own true nature. Here are some guidelines: 

1. With care, aid those who are merely extended expressions of our own nature. We are all fundamentally connected.

2. At the same time, be true to yourself. Be authentic. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and imperfect.

3. Connect to the world as you wish to be treated. Live the Golden Rule: ‘Do unto others’.

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4. To those unwilling to accept you for who you are, no action is required.

 

Materialism

5. Own nothing. You are merely a passing custodian of items outside of your nature. Of course, we all need material possessions in order to function in today’s world but don’t become overly attached to the material world. It is surprising what we can do without when push comes to shove.   

6. Take time, relax, and just explore the world. Taoism has no fixed plans. Follow your instincts. It’s in the pause of the breath that each step of living becomes visible for your larger life to unfold and improve.

Nothing is softer or more flexible

than water yet, 

nothing can resist it.

Nature does not hurry, 

yet everything is accomplished.

– Chuang Tzu

7. Smile when you need to pick a possible next step. Breathe when needing a break since to breathe is to become one with yourself. Alternate the two and the path will become free and clear for a lifetime of wonder to explore. Anything is possible within this simple practice.

 ‘When the path is clear, why do you throw stones before you?’

Expectations and healthy-striving

8. Let go of expectations. The more expectations you have of your life, the less you will accomplish or become. A Taoist lives life without expectations, living fully in the here and now. However, as we know, people need a few expectations as it is part of navigating life. We can practice healthy-striving, but like the Stoics, let go of the outcome of your own actions. 

 

Here’s the secret. Create only a single expectation at a time for any future experience: an expectation that you will smile or have some fun. Don’t place any expectation of learning or changing into your expectation. Learning from your own experiences and mistakes or changing yourself for the better will occur on its own accord without the burden of expectations. 

 

Expectations plant the seeds for the opposite to occuryou won’t learn, change, or grow from your efforts or your experiences. By creating a single, simple expectation such as smiling, this then becomes something you can always fulfil since you can empower that action to happen. Any expectation more complicated than that or relying on something outside of yourself (attachment to the outcome) just sets up the future to not meeting your needs.

9. The process of learning Taoism is also a process of healing. Take time to heal. Don’t rush. Be patient. Embrace your body and mind with healing.

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The silence of practicing Taoism

 

10. Embrace silence. Take time off for silence. Nothing could be more important. Silence is the soul’s break for freedom.

Silence is a great source of strength.

To the mind that is still,

the whole universe surrenders.

– Chuang Tzu

 

11. Let go of perfection. Work at being the best you can at whatever you do in life, but also embrace the faults of life and your individual flaws. Imperfections make us individuals. Imperfections make us beautiful. Accept the good and bad or more accurately, blur the distinctions between the unhealthy labels of ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

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12. Explore your essence. Learn how to trust your own intuition. Listen to your own heart. If something doesn’t feel right, then you need to examine why. Let go of judgements that hold you back. Remove conflict and anger from your relationships. If you find yourself in dysfunctional relationships either set up firm boundaries for yourself, or remove yourself from the relationship altogether. Life is too short. ‘Empty your boat while crossing the river of life.’ For more on this concept, discover our article Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi: 16 Practical Lessons On Self-Mastery & Peace.

He who knows others is wise.

He who knows himself is enlightened.

At the center of your being, you have the answer;

you know who you are and 

you know what you want 

– Lao Tzu

13. And finally, and most importantly, be kind to yourself and pace your life to match your own true essence.

Taoism is acceptance of your life.

It’s following your breath to find peace.

It’s opening up a smile to enable possibility

To smile is to say yes to your life.  

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A Restless Search: A Short Story About Perception

A Restless Search: A Short Story About Perception

There was a young man, restless by nature, who entered a new town looking for a place to settle down and begin anew his life. Upon his arrival, he went to the local monastery and asked to see the abbot, an old man both venerable and wise.

 

He asked the abbot, ‘What are the people like in this town?’

 

The old man paused a moment and then asked the young man, ‘What were people like in the last town that you lived in?’

 

The young man replied, ‘Oh, they were horrible folk: greedy and lustful and mean spirited!’

 

The abbot replied, ‘That is exactly what people are like in this town.’

 

And so the young man moved on from town to town and never found a home to settle down.

 

A few days later, another young man entered the town looking for a place to settle down and like his predecessor, sought out the advice of the venerable old abbot. ‘What are people like in this town?’, he asked.

 

‘What were people like in the last town that you lived in?’ asked the abbot.

 

The young man replied, ‘Oh, they were kind and generous and filled with the joy of living. They were wonderful folks!’

 

The abbot replied, ‘That is exactly what people are like in this town. You are in luck!’

 

And so the second young man settled down in the town, married, raised his children and lived a long and happy life.

 

A short story about perception

 

There is an old Buddhist saying that goes something like this: ‘Other people appear as pigs in the eyes of a pig, whereas, other people appear as Buddhas in the eyes of a Buddha.’ If we are always looking for and expecting the worst from people, that is exactly what we will see, what we will get back. On the other hand, if we make an effort to always look for the good in others, that is exactly what we will see in others and will get back. Our perceptions of others determine how we interact with them. If you treat others with kindness and respect, more often than not, you will receive kindness and respect back.

 

“It never hurts to think too highly of a person; often they become ennobled by it and act better because of it.”

– Nelson Mandela

 

Then it was as if I suddenly saw

The secret beauty of their hearts,

The depths of their hearts where neither

Sin nor self-knowledge can reach:

The core of their reality;

The person that each one is

In the eyes of the Divine.

If only they could all see themselves

As they really are.

If only we could all see each other

That way all the time.

There would be no more war,

No more hatred, no more cruelty;

No more greed!

I suppose the big problem would be that

We would all fall down worshipping each other.

– Thomas Merton

 

 

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