Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

 

What if there was a way you could train your wisdom and insight? No tools or equipment required. No books to read. No classes to attend. All you’d need is a few minutes each day. Such a means of building a wider perspective and developing clear insight exists. It’s called Zen meditation.

 

Zen Buddhist traditions place a greater emphasis on meditation than do some of the other schools of Buddhism. In Zen Buddhism, there’s a belief that wisdom, morality, and insight follow naturally from meditation practice. 

 

In this article, we’ll take a closer look at the two fundamental components of Zen meditation, which are ‘stopping’ and ‘looking deeply’. We’ll define Zen meditation and give some step-by-step instructions on how to practice Zen meditation. Ultimately, I’d like to clarify the somewhat intangible terms of ‘insight’ and ‘wisdom’, by illustrating short, real-life examples of how each Zen meditation session is like a deposit into a bank, in that the merits can be withdrawn later when conducting your daily life. 

 

“If you pack the wood too densely, the fire will not take; the flames need room to breathe. In the same way, if our lives have no breathing room, we won’t be able to enjoy all the things we have, no matter how great or precious they are.”

– Haemin Sunim, Love for Imperfect Things (paid link)

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What is Zen meditation?

 

Zen meditation, also known as zazen, is an integral aspect of Zen philosophy, derived from the Japanese term “zenno,” which originates from the Chinese Ch’an or channo, meaning “absorptive concentration”. Zazen, translated as “seated mind,” serves as the cornerstone of Zen, regarded not only as the pathway to wisdom and insight but, in the words of thirteenth-century master Dogen, as wisdom itself when practiced with wholehearted commitment. Zen meditation is not merely a component of Zen philosophy. It is the essence of Zen.

 

“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?”

– Dogen

 

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How to do Zen meditation

  • Stop doing whatever it is you were doing. Simply sit or stand still for a moment before engaging in the following instructions. 
  • Begin your meditation practice with a small bow towards your cushion or chair as a gesture of respect for the space you are about to occupy. 
  • Take a cross-legged position.
  • Gently lower your chin, open your eyes, and soften your focus, looking down about three feet in front of you. 
  • Place your tongue against the roof of your mouth to promote proper nasal breathing. 
  • Cradle your left hand with your right, thumbs meeting just below your navel.
  • Inhale through your nose, imagining your lower belly filling like a balloon, following the air’s movement. Exhale, “watching” the journey of the air as it exits through your nostrils. 
  • Establish a breathing pattern and count each breath, starting with one on the inbreath and two on the outbreath, progressing to ten, then returning to one. Acknowledge thoughts, let them go, and return to one if your mind wanders. 
  • Dedicate the merits of your practice to a loved one or to all beings.

 

Stopping: The first essential component of Zen meditation

 

Zen meditation recognizes that the mind and body are one. When the body is rushing, the mind races. When the mind is troubled, the body tenses. This is why Zen meditation teachers urge us to stop and sit for dedicated meditation practice. We must first calm the body before calming the mind. 

 

To stop in the sense of Zen meditation, we must literally stop using our body to manipulate the world. When you want to practice Zen meditation, first put down the phone, don’t try to kill two birds with one stone by stretching or practicing yoga, don’t worry about lighting incense or ringing a meditation bell. Invite total stillness. 

 

After we’ve settled the body, we can begin to use the breath as the bridge between mind and body which returns us to a natural state not dominated by language and intellect. The late Zen meditation teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh, called this returning home: 

 

“We run throughout our whole life, chasing after some idea of happiness. Stopping means to stop our running, our forgetfulness, and our being caught in the past or future. We come home to the present moment where life is available. The present moment contains every moment.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh, How To Relax (paid link)

 

Connecting with your natural state of composure

 

There is this idea in Zen philosophy that we’re like a block of uncarved wood, that our natural state is one of wholeness and composure. The human ability to detect patterns and use language to make sense of the world is like the blade that carves and shapes our mind into our concept of ‘self’. The sense of self is merely a collection of perceived patterns, some of which turn out to be incorrect when examined closely. These learned concepts beget expectations and desires. When we attach ourselves to these expectations and desires, we suffer. 

 

Additionally, the only thing that makes the past or future seem real is language. So this stopping, this returning home to the breath, is a break from the long-chain thinking we’re accustomed to. It’s a break from all the external thinking, labeling, and pattern-recognizing we all do. This is why the breath is so important as an object of focus. It’s always there. It’s a bridge between mind and body, and it requires no concepts, notions, ideas, or language.

 

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Looking deeply: The second essential component of Zen meditation 

 

Zen philosophy has a rich history and a vibrant culture today, so it’s no surprise that there are many different Zen meditation techniques. In some traditions, meditators use koans, which are paradoxical statements, stories, or questions which the meditator contemplates. One example is, “What was your original face before you were born?” In other traditions, a practice called Shikantaza (literally, “nothing but precise sitting”) is used to cultivate wisdom. Shikantaza is a variation of mindfulness or concentration meditation, whereby the meditator simply observes whatever bubbles up. Sounds, thoughts, sensations—just watch them come and go naturally. 

 

Then there’s the practice of looking deeply. This is where the meditator seeks the true nature of things. It’s the stripping away of the fabricated concepts that the human mind attaches to everything. The guidance of the Eightfold Path is useful here. Several of its folds come into play when looking deeply during meditation. 

 

We can practice Right Understanding by actively contemplating impermanence and non-attachment. We can practice compassion and seeing interconnection in the world by practicing loving kindness meditation. In loving kindness meditation, we simply repeat the phrases: May you be healthy. May you be happy. May you be at peace. 

 

To sustain this practice, we must have Right Concentration, where we marry our attention with our intention to practice. We must also practice Right Mindfulness, which helps us notice when we’ve become distracted. 

 

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Wisdom and insight are byproducts of practice

 

The methods are many, but the result of all these Zen meditation techniques is the same. When we stop and reflect as prescribed by the Zen meditation practices we’ve discussed, we can begin to see why Zen philosophy says insight and wisdom naturally follow from meditation. 

 

How could we not walk away wiser from a 20-minute meditation session during which we contemplated, however briefly, impermanence, interconnection, and unconditional love for all beings? How could we not walk away with a deeper understanding of our true nature from a 20-minute stretch during which we allowed our minds and bodies to rest in silence?

 

To say that insight and wisdom naturally follow from Zen meditation makes it sound easy, but this is not my intention. We must first break the habit of running, striving, planning, doing, and breaking a habit is never easy. Then, we must get good at observing the breath to settle the mind. Finally, once we are able to stop and return home to the breath, we can contemplate fundamental truths of life like impermanence and non-attachment, which is important because although they are fundamental, they are not always apparent in our daily lives. 

 

The benefits of Zen meditation

 

I’d like to leave you not with studies showing the physiological and psychological benefits of meditation, although that would be easy to do given there are so many of them out there. Instead, I’d like to leave you with some short, hypothetical examples of how the benefits of Zen meditation—the wisdom and insight that naturally flow from it—can occur in daily life. 

 

These are some ways that wisdom and insight manifest themselves in real life. Full disclosure: I’ve adapted most of the items from the list below from a wonderful book by Korean Zen Buddhist teacher, Haemin Sunim called The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down (paid link)

 

When a terrible feeling arises, look for its transient nature. Remind yourself that it is only a visitor, and that it’ll be gone soon. 

The wise don’t stuff themselves at a meal to the point of feeling bloated and uncomfortable. They are aware of when they’ve eaten enough. 

When others are angry or abusive towards you, your first thought is, ‘This person is suffering. I wonder what’s causing that suffering.’ 

In relationships, your love is usually the only variable you can control. You can show your love in infinite ways, but you cannot control what they think, say, or do. 

Your true nature is that of unshakable composure. Only envy and expectation disrupt this natural steadiness of mind. 

When confronted with a difficult situation, be incredibly curious of your initial thought regarding it. The initial thought is like the lead in a good journalist’s story. It sets the tone for the rest of the narrative. Like any piece of good writing, it can be molded and shaped however you like. 

When you are overwhelmed, write everything that’s overwhelming you down on a piece of paper. This alleviates much of the angst. You’ll feel instantly better having organized your thoughts and having gotten them ‘out’ of your head. Now, place the paper on your desk, and take a rest—meditate, go for a walk, or go to bed. After you’ve rested, return to the paper and transform it into a list of small actions to take to resolve some of the issues. 

Try to be joyful even when you don’t feel like it. Part of Zen wisdom is keeping an open, curious, and playful mind. Anger closes the door to an open mind because anger is a state of certainty (I am angry because so-and-so did this), so choose joy whenever possible. 

When faced with a tough decision, add this factor into your equation: ‘How many people will benefit from this?’ If the answer is only yourself, then it may be the wrong decision. 

The easiest way to speak more eloquently and carefully is to say less. 

When you feel irritated or slightly depressed, do something kind for someone else. This will not solve your problem, but you will feel better. This is incredibly hard to do, so be patient with yourself as you practice.

 

Final thoughts

 

These instances, scenarios, and guidelines may seem idealistic. ‘Wisdom’ and ‘insight’ are lofty terms. I hope that the above points illustrate what these terms truly mean. Wisdom and insight are action states—they’re verbs. They’re things that you think, say, and do in real life. 

 

The ability to think, speak, and act like a Zen monk is within your reach. Wisdom and insight are only idealistic and intangible to the mind that is too busy, too caught up in the day-to-day. Zen meditation is the training ground that gradually builds the capacity to act in the ways described above. It’s the elevated look-off point that lets you climb out from under the canopy to see the panoramic view of the entire forest.

 

Remember, the first and most critical foundation of Zen meditation is to simply stop and sit. Don’t worry about concepts, techniques, or teachings. Just find stillness. 

 

Once you’ve mastered the ability to stop, you can then consider interconnection in your life. You can observe the transient nature of pain and beauty in your life. You can ask yourself, ‘what expectations, objects, or desires am I attached to? How can I let them go?’ These simple contemplations of the true nature of reality, and how it relates to your life, when combined with the restorative act of stopping, shift your neural circuitry in ways that enable wise thought, speech, and action. 

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Memento Vivere: How To Live With Agency, Gratitude & Engagement

Antipater is a lesser-known Stoic, yet he was head of the school during a period that saw Stoicism extend to public life. Stoic philosophers were sent on diplomatic missions. Some advised kings. But Antipater’s contributions brought Stoicism closer to home. He was perhaps the first Western philosopher to argue that marriage isn’t a mere economic arrangement, but instead a symbiotic melding of two souls. To him, this lifelong commitment didn’t just require virtue. It was inextricably linked to virtue. He began to restore focus on what Stoicism was meant to be and what it remains today—a philosophy for living. Most people with some knowledge of Stoicism have probably heard of the phrase ‘memento mori’, which means remember your mortality. But there’s a flip side to that coin which is often overlooked. Memento mori is just the tip of the iceberg. Memento vivere is what lies beneath the water’s surface. 

 

The meaning of memento vivere 

 

Memento vivere is a Latin phrase meaning “remember to live”. The difference between memento mori and memento vivere is that the former is a wake-up call and the latter is what you do once you’re awake. Sure, it’s useful to be aware of one’s mortality, to ponder it from time to time. But then what? Curl up under the sheets in fear, awaiting the end? No. The response is to live with vigor and purpose. The response is to develop an intimate relationship with all that’s beautiful about this life, to reach out and touch nature, to breathe. 

 

“Marriage,” Antipater said, “is among the primary and most necessary of appropriate actions.” I don’t intend to make this article about marriage but it’s a good example to illustrate the Stoic way of embracing life, because marriage is hard. There’s a reason Antipater and other Stoic philosophers taught young people how to be good spouses. It takes effort to cultivate sublime experiences. All four of the Stoic cardinal virtues—courage, justice, wisdom, and temperance—are woven into a successful relationship.

 

The same is true for other facets of life. To extract the most from them, we need to show up with mindful awareness. Memento vivere is a call to action. It reminds us to bring a little effort (and even a little strategy) to how we interface with all aspects of life. 

 

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How to practice memento vivere

 

If you look broadly in the literature, you can find that Stoicism has advised on everything from how to sell a home to how to conduct your sex life. This is what attracts me to Stoicism. It’s always acknowledged that we have roles to play in this life. It understands that we have commitments, some of which can be conflicting at times. This is what makes it so practical and easy to recall when real-life situations pop up. 

 

To write an article on how to practice memento vivere is to write an article on how to live. Where to begin? 

 

I want to focus on the foundation—the pillars that will help you practice memento vivere so you can engage with life from a place of optimism, joy, and courage. The three pillars of this framework are gratitude, agency, and engagement. 

 

Memento vivere and gratitude

 

Our first two pillars, gratitude and agency, came to me not from a book on Stoicism, but from a podcast based on the latest science in the domain of human health and performance. I’m talking about the Huberman Lab podcast, particularly the four episodes they did with Dr. Paul Conti, a psychiatrist and renowned expert on mental health. The series of episodes focused on mental health as opposed to mental illness. They discussed two concepts more than any others over the span of those four episodes. Those concepts were gratitude and agency. 

 

They spoke about gratitude as a verb—as an action that requires your attention and effort. You may have heard of the importance of gratitude to the extent that it’s becoming cliché. You may find that the people touting gratitude journals are corny. But the fact remains that gratitude is no trivial matter. Gratitude makes the difference between joy and despair. 

 

Just as memento vivere reminds us to live actively, not passively, we must remind ourselves to be active with gratitude. Corny as they may seem, gratitude journals or some form of formal dedication to gratitude are necessary. It’s not enough to say ‘I really should do that’. Gratitude is one of just a few pillars of mental health. To make gratitude practice a habit, you could start by pairing it with something you already do habitually. It could be your morning breakfast or coffee. It could be a hot shower. These are things you’re not going to skip. They’re also examples of the many mundane, yet wonderful things we all take for granted. They’re ideal moments to practice gratitude. 

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Memento vivere and agency 

In his book Courage is Calling (paid link), Ryan Holiday tells the story of Xenophon, the illustrious Athenian cavalry commander, who confronted a dire situation in the heart of Persia amidst ten thousand of his fellow troops lacking a leader. As Xenophon tried to rally the despondent men frozen with fear and frustration, anticipating the next calamity, he shared a profound dichotomy with them. Xenophon presented the soldiers with a crucial choice between two attitudes: one questioning, “What is going to happen to me?” and the other prompting, “What action am I going to take?”

 

The former attitude is one of despair. The latter is what a person exerting their agency asks themselves. To ask yourself that question and come up with an answer is the fundamental first step towards agency. The second and final step is taking the action. 

 

Here agency refers to our active and intentional ability to make choices, take decisive actions, and exert control over our lives.

 

Huberman and Conti discussed agency at length. Along with gratitude, it is one of just a few essential components for mental health. Again, like with gratitude, they spoke about agency as a verb. We must assert our agency regularly. In response to obstacles that arise, we ask ourselves the same question that Xenophon asked his troops: “What action am I going to take?” 

 

Asserting agency

 

Agency is your ability to affect change in your life. It’s your ability to manipulate your environment. So agency is also about preparedness. One way I measure agency in my own life is by my ability to make lateral moves. If I had to move to a different city next month, would I be able to do it? A different country? A different continent? Do I have the means to make the move? Am I capable of handling the plethora of administrative tasks required to make that move—applying for a visa, finding a new job, a new apartment, getting health insurance.

 

If the answer is no to any of those questions, then there’s my precious opportunity to assert agency. I can practice agency by doing the little things that would enable me to say yes to all of those questions. So like gratitude, agency is not just something we think about for a few minutes when someone or something reminds us of its importance. It has to be a daily practice. We must remember to assert agency, not only as a pillar of mental health, but as part of our practice of memento vivere—remembering to live. 

 

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Memento vivere and engagement

 

Motivation and drive are crucial components of memento vivere. Life isn’t happening inside your comfort zone. We need a little forward momentum to carry us toward adventure. We need vigor to engage with this beautiful world—to meet new people, to experience new cultures, to connect with the natural world. There are things out there that will scare you. But you must have the courage to engage with life despite your fear. Usually, anxiety is nothing more than your body preparing itself to engage with something new, something unexpected. 

 

The Right Effort fold of the Eightfold Path reminds us that it takes effort to live with mindfulness, intention, and understanding. It’s a path to be walked, not whisked along on an e-scooter. 

 

The practical way to begin engaging with life more deliberately is to get outside. Home is a comfort zone. There’s nothing wrong with having a comfortable home. It’s an obvious necessity. But there’s so much more to offer outside. We need to seek out novel experiences. Been practicing Jiu jitsu for ten years? Maybe try a yoga class. Consider yourself a runner? Become a swimmer for some time. You’re a beach person? Try backpacking in the mountains. Have kids? Make a long list of parks, trails, museums, galleries, theaters, zoos, farms, and sports clubs to take them to on the weekends. Carve out the time and muster up the energy to get out there. When things start to get a bit scary, you’ll know you’re on the right path. 

 

“There is nothing worth doing that is not scary. There is no one who has achieved greatness without wrestling with their own doubts, anxieties, limitations, and demons.” – Ryan Holiday, Courage Is Calling (paid link)

Final thoughts 

 

Memento vivere. Remember to live. It might sound crazy. Of course I’m living. How could I forget to live? 

 

Often, we’re on autopilot. 

 

Thich Nhat Hanh called it habit energy. It’s a degree of mindlessness that becomes ingrained in us through our repeated actions, many of which are forward focused. We plan. We strive. We work ourselves to exhaustion and then we just need to rest until the next bout of work. 

 

Memento mori is meant to be the wakeup call. Remembering that your time is limited is meant to jolt you back to the present moment. Memento vivere is what you do with that present moment. Living is an art. No other subject has been written about more than how to live one’s life. It takes effort. It takes practice. Gratitude, agency, and engagement will serve you as signposts. I can’t imagine that anyone doesn’t want to live an engaged and purposeful life. The first question is ‘how?’ To that, I hope you found a starting point in this article. The next question is ‘when?’ To that, I hope your answer is now.

 

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Indifferents In Stoicism Explained Through Gain, Loss, Pleasure & Pain

Indifferents In Stoicism Explained Through Gain, Loss, Pleasure & Pain

In the pivotal Game 5 of the 1997 NBA Finals, Michael Jordan battled a severe flu, yet soared to iconic heights. Against the surging Utah Jazz, he defied physical limits, sinking clutch shots and leading the Chicago Bulls to a crucial victory. His resilience showcased the essence of a true basketball legend, etching the “Flu Game” into sporting history. Would Jordan have preferred to be healthy for that game? Of course. But he treated his symptoms with indifference. Most importantly, he showed up—he acted in accordance with his values. He played the game with skill despite battling dispreferred indifferents. In this article, we’ll unpack the concept indifferents in Stoicism. Once we get past the somewhat paradoxical feel of terms like “preferred indifferents” and “dispreferred indifferents”, you’ll find that the Stoic concept of indifferents is simple and immensely useful for navigating the ups and downs of life.

 

“We have the potential for it [to live a good life]. If we can learn to be indifferent to what makes no difference.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (paid link)

 

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What are the indifferents of Stoicism? 

 

In Stoicism, “indifferents” are external circumstances, possessions, and events that are neither inherently good nor bad, because the only things that can be inherently good or bad are virtue and character. To practicing Stoics, the only thing that is not to be treated with indifference is your moral character. 

 

If Michael Jordan had played that Game 5 despite a crushing flu, led his team with heroic play to a lead late in the game, but then had somehow cheated in the dying seconds, it would all be for nothing. His resilience would have been forgotten. Only his misdemeanor would have remained on record. 

 

One of the reasons Stoicism endures as a popular philosophy today is its practicality. The founding Stoics realized that it’s unrealistic to not have preferences. Of course, we play the game to win, but we do not cheat, turn a blind eye to suffering that we could prevent, or engage in obsessive desire. This is why the Stoics developed the concepts of “preferred indifferents” and “dispreferred indifferents”.

 

“There is great difference between joy and pain; if I am asked to choose, I shall seek the former and avoid the latter. The former is according to nature, the latter is contrary to it. So long as they are rated by this standard, there is a great gulf between; but when it comes to a question of the virtue involved, the virtue in each case is the same, whether it comes through joy or through sorrow.” – Seneca

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Preferred indifferents 

 

Preferred indifferents in Stoicism refer to things which are considered indifferent in themselves but are preferred because they can contribute to a virtuous life. You can be healthy, fit, and bursting with energy, but if you got that way by spending twenty hours a week at the gym while your partner is at home struggling to keep up with the kids, then you are of poor character—you were ignorant of the concept of “preferred indifferents”. Conversely, if you are healthy because you take care of yourself moderately and fulfill your primary duties in life, then health is a benefit which supports your ability to live virtuously. The Stoics used this label of preferred indifferent not as a paradox. They used it to remind us that it’s natural to prefer health over illness, but even health cannot come at the expense of good character. 

 

Indifferent to gain

 

There are endless ways to become wealthy in exchange for one’s character. Of course, it’s better to have money than to not have it. Poverty is a health risk. But the Stoics would deplore the young man who sets the standard for weakness in his neighborhood by selling drugs—becoming a poor role model for all the younger eyes observing him. Similarly, the businessperson who exchanges a few hundred extra tons of CO2 emissions to cut expenses is no Stoic. 

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Indifferent to pleasure

 

Sex is probably the ultimate preferred indifferent. It can be the source of intimacy, passion, and ecstasy in a mutual loving relationship. But it can also drive people to their worst. It’s the impetus for frustration, infidelity, and, tragically, human trafficking. The ancient Stoics would encourage you to have good sex, and often, as long as it didn’t curtail your virtues.

 

Dispreferred indifferents 

 

Dispreferred indifferents in Stoicism refer to circumstances, such as poverty or illness, which are considered indifferent in themselves but are dispreferred because they can pose challenges to living a virtuous life. The Stoics were wise to acknowledge that some things in life are best avoided. Aversion responses are encoded in our DNA. We wouldn’t have come far as a species if we didn’t learn to avoid predators, poisons, and dangerous people. 

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Indifferent to loss 

 

Most wealthy people are not stress free. They don’t need to worry about the bills or whether they’ll be able to afford gifts for special occasions. But they do worry about losing those capabilities. They worry about mutual fund management fees and stock prices. They worry about transferring their wealth to the next generation. These worries are dispreferred indifferents. But if the desire to grasp onto one’s wealth prevents them from living virtuously—living for the betterment of the world around them—then they exceed the realm of indifferents and become a problem. 

 

Much excessive grasping and aversion stems from failure to recognize the impermanent nature of everything, as Epictetus reminds us: 

 

“What if things, objects, and beings that delight your mind are of good practical use, or which you dearly love? Remind yourself of their true nature, beginning with the smallest trifle and working upward. If you have a favorite cup, remember that it is only a cup that you prefer. If it is broken, you can bear it. When you embrace your wife or child, remember that they are mortal beings. By accepting their nature, rather than denying it, if either should die you will find the strength to bear it.”

 

Personally, I have a hard time with this sharp turn from losing one’s favorite cup to losing one’s child. As a new father, it doesn’t sit well. But I can see the wisdom in accepting rather than denying. If the unthinkable happened, and a person lost their child, and still had the will to live, they would need acceptance, character, and virtue to keep on going. These would be the branches stretching out over the raging river of sorrow. And everything else would be indifferent.

 

“Do not say of anything ‘I have lost it,’ but rather ‘I have given it back.’ Has your wife died? You have given her back. Has your child died? You have given him back. Have you lost your home? You have given it back. ‘But…,’ you may retort, a bad person took it. It is not your concern by what means something returns to the source from which it came, for as long as the source entrusts something to your hands, treat it as something borrowed, like a traveler at an inn.” – Epictetus, The Manual (paid link)

Indifferent to pain

 

When I was young, my mother was in a car accident. Ever since the accident, she has suffered from a chronic pain disorder called fibromyalgia. Growing up, though, I would never have known that she was in near constant pain. She didn’t show it. Instead, she showed up as a mother. My parents divorced when I was ten, so she raised me single handedly from then on and through my (quite) troubled teen years. She’s also one of the most compassionate people I know. Last winter, she spent hours knitting hats and scarves to donate to local homeless shelters. Just the other day she told me how she gave away her late father’s power tools to a man she knows who needed them. 

 

She’s a Stoic—whether she knows it or not. Despite a severe dispreferred indifferent in the form of a chronic health disorder, she lives virtuously. She strives (and succeeds) to do good.

 

It’s how we choose to respond to pain that matters. We must reach into our toolkits, pull out fortitude or resilience, and decide to use those tools to help us maintain virtue despite pain. This is how Stoics respond to dispreferred indifferents. 

 

“Whenever a challenge arises, turn inward and ask what power you can exercise in this situation. If you meet temptation, use self-control. If you meet pain, use fortitude. If you meet revulsion, use patience. In this way, you will overcome life’s challenges rather than be overcome by them.” – Epictetus, The Manual (paid link)

 

Final thoughts 

 

I was inspired to lead this article with the Michael Jordan anecdote, because it was Socrates, who was a major influence on early Stoicism, who said that we must play the game of life with skill, but treat the ball with indifference. Don’t be confused by the seemingly paradoxical ring to terms like preferred and dispreferred indifferents. The message is simple: know your highest values—your purpose and virtues—and know them well because nothing is more important. If you uphold your virtues and pleasure and gain come your way, then all the better. If you maintain a strong and compassionate character despite bad things happening to you, then all the better.

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Summary of Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday

In Ryan Holiday’s insightful book, Ego Is The Enemy, we’re led to understand the profound impact of ego on our personal and professional lives. Through a series of powerful insights, Holiday explores the detrimental effects of ego, drawing from historical figures, modern role models, and the timeless philosophy of Stoicism. This short summary of the book Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday distills the key takeaways from the book, shedding light on the importance of humility, self-awareness, and resilience in the face of success and failure. Let’s uncover the wisdom of keeping ego in check, fostering genuine confidence, and striving for a life of purpose and realism.

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  1. Modest ambitions and gracious triumphs: Set humble goals and be gracious when achieving them. Remind yourself that success should not inflate your ego.

 

  1. Rare qualities: What truly sets people apart is not raw talent, skill, or confidence, but rather humility, diligence, and self-awareness.

 

  1. The power of silence: Silence is a refuge for the confident and strong, as incessant talking can deplete our resources. 

 

  1. Work vs. chatter: Work and chatter are incompatible; one diminishes the other. Visualizing goals is important, but excessive talk can trick the mind into believing that real progress is being made.

 

  1. Frank Shamrock’s training system: MMA pioneer Frank Shamrock’s “plus, minus, and equal” system is about surrounding yourself with those better, lesser, and equal to you, facilitating growth and learning.

 

  1. The true student: A genuine student absorbs, filters, and self-critiques without ego. This mindset prioritizes improvement and learning.
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  1. Passion vs. purpose: Unchecked passion can mask weaknesses, emphasizing the need for discipline, mastery, strength, and perseverance. Purpose provides focus and boundaries to passion.

 

  1. Ego vs. confidence: Ego is artificial, while true confidence is earned and can withstand challenges. Ego is self-assured, while confidence is grounded in reality.

 

  1. Clearing paths for others: Being an “anteambulo” means paving the way for those above you, indirectly benefiting yourself as well.

 

  1. Helping others: Help others selflessly and consistently. The cumulative effect can lead to personal growth, a solid reputation, valuable relationships, and a reservoir of goodwill.

 

  1. Subdued ego: Those who have mastered their egos understand that mistreatment by others reflects poorly on them, not on oneself.

 

  1. Pride as a distraction: Don’t let pride, even in genuine accomplishments, become a distraction and delusion.

 

  1. Inner scorecard: Measure personal success against your own potential and values, not just external markers of achievement.

 

Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday serves as a profound reminder that our ego can be our most formidable adversary. By internalizing the core principles of humility, resilience, and self-awareness, we gain the power to break free from the shackles of ego-driven behaviors. We learn that true success lies not in pride or self-aggrandizement but in the relentless pursuit of personal growth and the betterment of others. These insights guide us toward a more meaningful path—where purpose, realism, and genuine confidence take precedence. Embracing these lessons, we can chart a course to a more fulfilling and authentic existence.

 

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Summary of Peak Mind by Amishi Jha

The cacophony of modern life can be overwhelming. Dr. Amishi Jha’s Peak Mind opens the door to stillness. As a presentation of her research, Jha reveals the keys to unlocking our cognitive potential and cultivating a focused, resilient, and mindful mind. This short summary of the book Peak Mind by Amishi Jha delves into the author’s groundbreaking research and practical guidance. Let’s uncover the tools and strategies for harnessing the extraordinary power of your mind.

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  • Three things reliably weaken our attention capacity: stress, threat, and poor mood.

 

  • One thing reliably strengthens our attention capacity: mindfulness practice.

 

  • The author and her research team conducted studies that showed measurable improvements in participants’ attention. In the study, participants meditated for 12 minutes, five days a week. This is enough, but the more you practice, the more you’ll benefit.

 

  • Participants used a classic concentration meditation technique: focus on the breath, attempt to give it full attention, and when attention drifts to something besides the breath, return attention to the breath gently, without judgment or frustration.

 

  • The most prolific thief of attention is mental time travel, which is ruminating on the past or worrying about the future. Mindfulness alleviates this effect because it keeps us in the present moment.
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  • Uncertainty is a big cause of mental time travel. In times of change or uncertainty, we should focus on what we can control, and act on it mindfully.

 

  • We should treat mental exercise more like physical exercise. You wouldn’t run a marathon without first training for it. Yet, we enter into all kinds of cognitively demanding situations without training for them.

 

  • Multitasking is a myth. A more accurate label for what we normally think of as multitasking is task-switching. However, this is the most cognitively taxing thing you can do.

 

  • Attention consists of three systems: 1) The Flashlight (a narrow, focused attention); 2) The Spotlight (a wide, but not deep attention); 3) The Juggler (the executive function that switches back and forth between tasks and points of attention). Mindfulness helps build the capacity to shine ‘the flashlight’ purposefully. 

 

Peak Mind by Amishi Jha unveils the profound potential of the human mind. Dr. Jha’s research equips us with essential tools for cognitive resilience, focus, and mindfulness. This exploration highlights the significance of training our minds to thrive in a complex world, fostering emotional intelligence, inner strength, and clarity. Peak Mind sets the stage for personal growth and a greater impact on the world. With mindfulness as our compass, this roadmap guides us towards a purposeful and flourishing life. 

 

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