Debunking 8 Common Misconceptions About Stoicism: What It Really Means To Be A Stoic

Debunking 8 Common Misconceptions About Stoicism: What It Really Means To Be A Stoic

I blame the English dictionary for a good chunk of the misconceptions about Stoicism. Look up the word ‘stoic’ there and you’ll find something like, “a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.” Or maybe it’s the wealth of social media accounts that associate imagery of ultra rugged men alongside quotes from famous Stoics. Whatever the reason, there is quite a bit of misconception about Stoicism out there. This article clears up eight common misconceptions about Stoicism.

1. “Stoics suppress their emotions and feel nothing.”

It’s a common misunderstanding to think that Stoicism advocates repressing emotions entirely. Stoics, practitioners of Stoicism, that is, aim to cultivate “apatheia” (freedom from destructive emotions) rather than apathy in the modern sense. They don’t ignore emotions. Rather, they strive to understand them, master them, and respond in ways that align with virtues and their values. Believing Stoicism is about “not showing emotions” oversimplifies this rich and practical philosophy focused on emotional resilience and balance.

2. “Stoicism is all about ‘toughing it out’ and self-denial.”

Stoicism is about resilience. It’s not gritting your teeth, rise and grind, or living an austere life for its own sake. Stoics value tranquility and happiness, which come from aligning actions with virtues like wisdom, courage, and justice—not merely from enduring hardship. The idea is to manage desires and focus on what truly matters rather than forcing yourself to “tough it out”.

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3. “Stoics believe in fate, so everything is predetermined.”

Stoics accept that many aspects of life are outside our control, which is why they focus on mastering their responses to life’s ups and downs. But they also believe in the power of personal agency within those boundaries. Saying Stoics are “fatalistic” misses the mark; they work actively to respond to life rationally and virtuously, despite the unpredictability of the world.

4. “Stoicism is about positive thinking.”

Stoicism is not about positivity in the “conceive, believe, achieve” self-help sense. Instead, it teaches rationality, groundedness, and acceptance. While Stoics cultivate a calm acceptance of life’s ups and downs, they are not advocates of optimism without reason. Stoicism is actually more about seeing things as they are and focusing on what can be controlled, rather than “thinking positively” about everything.

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5. “The goal of Stoicism is to be ‘unaffected’ by anything.”

While Stoics aim to cultivate inner calm, this doesn’t mean they strive to be completely detached or indifferent. Their goal is not to feel nothing but to reduce the sway of excessive emotions. Stoicism teaches us to engage with the world—just not to be dominated by impulses and passions. Their teachings focus on appropriate responses to emotions rather than avoiding emotions altogether.

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6. “If you’re a Stoic, you don’t care about other people.”

Some interpret Stoicism as a cold, self-centered philosophy. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Stoics care deeply about the common good and human interconnection. They advocate treating others fairly, acting justly, and fulfilling one’s role in society to make the world a better place. 

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7. “Marcus Aurelius and Seneca were perfect Stoics, so we should emulate them exactly.”

Stoics see even these figures as imperfect practitioners who strove to live by their principles. Anyone who practices Stoicism will struggle and fall short sometimes. Stoicism isn’t about hero-worship; it’s about continuously striving toward self-improvement, understanding that perfection is out of reach.

8. “Stoicism is a ‘hack’ for modern productivity.”

Stoic techniques like the dichotomy of control or negative visualization can help with focus and resilience, but framing it as a “life hack” for productivity trivializes the philosophy. Stoicism is fundamentally about cultivating inner virtue, moral character, and alignment with your own values, not just getting more done in the day. 

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Final thoughts 

I’ve definitely made mistakes in writing about Stoicism and trying to incorporate its teachings into my personal conduct. I’m no historian. I’ve read books like Lives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday (paid link) to gain historical perspective, but I only remember a handful of names and dates. That’s OK. What matters is that I’m trying to develop my character and Stoicism continues to be a useful framework for doing that. If you’re new or not-so-new to Stoicism, hopefully this article has cleared up some common misconceptions about Stoicism, and hopefully that helps you discover its purpose, which is to help you live a principled life. 

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The Three Stoic Disciplines: Desire, Action, and Assent

The Three Stoic Disciplines: Desire, Action, and Assent

Stoicism is a guiding framework in my life, but so is business. I can think of no better school of thought than business when it comes to manifesting ideas into reality—big, complex ideas. Schools of business and businesses in practice are fountains of knowledge when it comes to organization, efficiency, and scalability. They provide frameworks on how to approach enormous challenges. Philosophy is like this, too. It gives us direction. Imagine I wake up one day and say, ‘Today, I’m going to start living better.’ It’s a great intention, but it’s laughably unspecific. Now, imagine I share the same statement with a trusted mentor. They would probably ask, ‘How are you going to do this?’ I might reply with, ‘I’ll start exercising, eating better, and reading more instead of watching YouTube.’ The mentor would likely ask, again, ‘How are you going to do this?’ 

 

Living well is no small feat, especially if we’re trying to reverse a tendency of living unwell that we’ve built up over years. This is why it’s useful to unpack philosophies like Stoicism and discuss their distinct teachings. One such teaching is the Three Stoic Disciplines. Doing this regularly gives us that structure that we so often lack when trying to mount a major change in our lives. Let’s explore the Three Stoic Disciplines here, and I hope that we can all revert to them whenever we’re feeling a bit lost or when we waver from our good intentions.

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The Stoic Discipline of Assent

 

The three Stoic disciplines come in no particular order, but I lead here with the Stoic discipline of Assent because I believe it is both the most fundamental of them all and the one that causes the most confusion. 

 

Assent is not a word we use every day. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as, “an act of agreeing to something especially after thoughtful consideration.” The Stoic discipline of Assent teaches us not to give our assent to first impressions of events. It’s the act of withdrawing our assent from our first impressions. In other words, we should not ‘agree’ with or be led along by our first impressions or initial reactions.

 

I don’t like the word Assent to describe this Stoic discipline because unlike the other two disciplines, assent is a negative—giving assent to first impressions is what we should not do. I’m not the only one. Other practitioners and scholars of Stoicism refer to the Stoic discipline of Assent as ‘Stoic mindfulness’, because it is arguably a more useful and intuitive term. 

 

Stoic mindfulness, as a term, communicates the skill required to have the effect we’re looking for, which is not reacting on impulses. Mindfulness, no matter which tradition we derive it from, is a practice that over time builds the ability to remain calm, measured, and composed when faced with external or internal challenges. 

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Stoic mindfulness is also more useful as a term than Stoic Assent because I don’t know of any handbooks on how to get better at withdrawing assent from your initial impressions. I do, however, know that volumes of practical advice have been written on how to practice mindfulness. I also know that although mindfulness is a comprehensive and challenging life practice, it is simple—simple enough that I can explain how to practice mindfulness in just a few words: try to focus on one thing such as your breath and when you become distracted by thoughts simply return your focus and repeat this for 10-30 minutes a day. 

 

We don’t see imagery of the ancient Stoics like Epictetus, Musonius Rufus, or Marcus Aurelius meditating in lotus position. Maybe they did not meditate this way. But they certainly had the ability to control their responses to tough situations. They exercised restraint. They had the ability to pause for a moment, recall their intentions to live virtuously, and respond (not react) to a situation with equanimity and compassion. In this sense, they were very much practitioners of Stoic mindfulness. 

 

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The Stoic Discipline of Desire 

 

While the Stoics may not have been explicitly famous for mindfulness, the Stoic discipline of Desire is where we find a few hallmarks of Stoicism. To the Stoics, the discipline of desire was all about knowing what and what not to desire. 

 

The Dichotomy of Control was one mechanism the Stoics used to figure out what was worth wanting and what was not. The Dichotomy of Control is the simple exercise of, either through discussion, reflection, or journaling, listing the elements of a situation that are within your control and those that are not in your control. It’s simple, yet powerful. What lies within your control is worth pursuing. What is not within your control should be set aside. 

 

A fundamental skill required to practice the Stoic discipline of desire is acceptance. Although the Dichotomy of Control is a simple exercise, it’s not always easy to let go of those things that are not within your control. Moreover, it’s not easy to be honest with ourselves and admit that certain things are outside of our control. We like to think we can do it all—cram it all in, work a little faster, work a little harder. When we lack the courage and temperance to drastically shave down our list of things we’re actively trying to affect in this world, we suffer. We become overstretched. The things that do deserve our attention suffer, too, because we are distracted by extraneous matters. The Stoic discipline of Desire, the Art of Acquiescence, is fundamentally a tradeoff—you let go of some things so that you can focus on others.

 

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The Stoic Discipline of Action

 

In modern times, the Stoic discipline of Action may evoke imagery of the likes of David Goggins, a former Navy SEAL known for extreme mental toughness and discipline. We may think of him in action, running shirtless while hollering motivational slogans at the camera. Even depictions of the ancient Stoics like Marcus Aurelius that we see on social media show them with unrealistically chiseled bodies, evoking an image of physical strength by way of intense physical activity. 

 

However, more accurate figures to represent the Stoic discipline of Action would be the likes of Mahatma Gandhi, Malala Yousafzai, or lesser-known folks like Holden Karnofsky, co-founder of the charity evaluator GiveWell.

 

The Stoic discipline of Action is Stoic philanthropy. It is closely related to the Stoic virtue of Justice, which reminds practitioners of Stoicism that the study and embodiment of ethics and morals is not a closet practice. We work hard to live better so that our positive actions ripple outward, making the world a better place in small or large ways. We strengthen ourselves so that when someone else is in need, we’re capable of helping. 

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There are many things within our sphere of influence that we can do to make the world a better place. For anyone looking for ways to make an impact, I strongly recommend the book Doing Good Better: How Effective Altruism Can Help You Help Others, Do Work that Matters, and Make Smarter Choices about Giving Back by William MacAskill (paid link)

 

Final thoughts 

 

I’ve been writing The Mindful Stoic for nearly five years now. I’ve read dozens of books on Stoicism. I really do try to implement what I’ve been studying in my daily life. Despite some experience under my belt, I still need to return to the fundamentals because I tend to slip back onto an easier path—I waver from my intention to live a principled life. I love teachings like the Three Stoic Disciplines because they are easy to digest. But they’re also so useful. Mindfulness and the ability to respond rather than react to situations, the ability to simplify our desires and focus our energy on what truly matters, and finally, a north star of philanthropy and altruism…. Is there a simpler way to live a meaningful life? 

 

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Book Commentary: Lives Of The Stoics by Ryan Holiday

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The Stoics were more adamant than most other schools that philosophy is not merely a “critique of words by means of other words,” as Nietzsche put it, but instead was a means for living a good life. This idea is more relevant today than it’s ever been. These days, most people’s touchpoints with philosophy are schools and universities, which employ this “critique of words by means of other words” approach to philosophy. Thus, many see philosophy as something to be studied and debated within the confines of classroom walls. But that’s not what most people want. Most people are looking for guidance, which is why Stoicism has seen such a resurgence in popularity. It is a practical framework that anyone can actually use to live a better life. 

 

The utility and accessibility of Stoicism is but one outstanding theme from Lives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday. The book is a compilation of mini biographies, presenting Stoics chronologically from Zeno of Citium, the school’s founder, to Marcus Aurelius, arguably the most famous Stoic. The book is rich in character. It introduced me to Stoics I had never heard of, some of whom challenge Epictetus’ spot as my favorite Stoic. 

 

There’s Cleanthes, who is known to have carried water at night for a living, deliberately opting for this back-breaking profession because it was a part of his philosophical practice. A king once asked Cleanthes why he still drew water at night, even after having established himself as a great philosopher. Cleanthes replied: 

 

“Is drawing water all that I do?

 

What? Do I not dig? What? 

 

Do I not water the garden? Or

 

Undertake any other labor for the love of philosophy?

 

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There’s Agrippinus, who was one of many Stoics in the Roman era who had to test their philosophy against tyrannical strongmen in power while themselves trying to participate in politics. He dared to be different and stand up for what he believed to be right and paid the price with his freedom—being sent into exile. But he did not complain nor waver from his commitments, we know, from the glowing recounts that come to us from Epictetus: “His character was such that when any hardship befell him he would compose a eulogy upon it.” 

 

We see a similar story, but taken to the extreme in the case of Musonius Rufus. Known to be a major influence for Epictetus, Musonius was exiled not once, not twice, but perhaps a total of four times he was stripped of his freedom. For what? For embodying good with unwavering commitment under the reigns of several cowardly emperors. When asked how he could go on with everything having been taken from him repeatedly, he rejected the premise, saying they could take away his home but not his “ability to endure exile.”

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Commentary on Lives of the Stoic by Ryan Holiday

 

These are my reflections on Lives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday (paid link). I’ll not retell the stories of each of the Stoics featured in the book. That would defeat the purpose of reading it for yourself. Instead, I’d like to extract what I feel are the most salient lessons about Stoicism that arise from the book. 

 

What is Stoicism?

 

There are many ways to define Stoicism. We could say it’s about acting in accordance with nature. We might say, as I often do, that it’s about making the world a better place. We could describe the four Stoic virtues: Courage, Temperance, Wisdom, and Justice. However, these definitions are somewhat vague. Instead, as I learned from this book, we might do well to speak about Stoicism in ways that speak to us as people—as humans. If we did this we might say that Stoicism is all about cultivating tranquility, purpose, self-control, and happiness. 

 

Tranquility can be found through mindfulness. We can take breaks from our endeavors and develop the skill of present-moment awareness. This is the foundation upon which all good actions are built. 

 

Purpose, as the Stoics taught, is not a selfish game. Our purpose should be to leave things better than how we found them. 

 

Self-control is a Stoic pursuit because living well is hard. Living a life of mindfulness requires dedication. Doing the right thing often means resisting the easy thing, or the delicious thing, or the pleasurable thing.

 

Happiness is the most difficult one to describe. Search for the meaning of happiness and you’ll find a thousand different answers. All I can do is offer mine. For me, happiness is a two-pronged fork. One side is gratitude. The other is agency—our ability to move freely through our environment, without excessive resistance, failure, or idleness.  

 

What is a good Stoic?

 

A good Stoic is someone who makes choices that support higher values. A good Stoic serves good causes. A good Stoic does not waver from their higher values nor their commitment to good causes when life becomes difficult. 

 

“A Stoic is someone who transforms fear into prudence, pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb

 

Stoicism and death

 

The Stoics taught a lot about how one should approach death. They realized that death is not something we face in a brief flash at the very end. Death is happening right now. Death is always present, it just occupies more space as more time goes by. The Stoics saw acceptance of death as fundamental in their philosophy because fear is a major impediment of moral behavior. If we can get over the ultimate fear that is death, then we develop a healthier relationship with fear itself, thus making ourselves more capable of living virtuously. Finally, the pervasiveness of death, to the Stoics, meant that we cannot waste a precious second of this beautiful, finite thing we call life. Therefore, death is an impetus for living with gratitude today. 

 

“It is not possible to live well today unless one thinks of it as his last.” – Musonius Rufus

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Personal transformation

 

If you’re like me, you were introduced to Stoicism late in life. Again, if you’re like me, you lived for decades with anxieties and self-doubt without any guidance or help. I learned from this book that it’s never too late to undergo personal transformation. Personal philosophies derived from wisdom traditions like Stoicism or Buddhism are an immense help, but ultimately self-transformation requires a lot of courage. Lives of the Stoics also showed that we need mentors and teachers to show us the way. 

 

Daimon: the universal guiding spirit

 

According to Stoicism’s founder, Zeno, we must strive to find a “smooth flow of life,” in everything we do to promote “harmonious accord with each man’s guiding spirit and the will of the one who governs the universe.” This is strikingly similar to Taoism and Zen Buddhism—the idea that our true nature is harmony with nature, not resistance or aggression towards it. The Greeks called it daimon, which they believed was an inner guiding spirit that connects all of us to nature. To some, this might sound a bit too esoteric. To others, like myself, it’s reassuring. It tells me that I have everything I need to live a purposeful, tranquil, and happy life. These things are in my nature. Anything else is an external influence. 

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A Stoic life is lived one step at a time 

 

Reading about the ancient Stoics, we may get the impression that they had something that we lack today. Perhaps they were able to live with virtue more easily than us for whatever reason, be it less access to information, not being connected to social networks 24/7. The stories you’ll read in Lives of the Stoics may seem lofty or unrelated at times. But when you look closely, you see these were just ordinary men and women of their times. They were not born enlightened. There was nothing special about their era that made it easier for them to live virtuously. When you read closely, you see that none of them became great Stoics remembered by history overnight. Their lives, the ones we’re reading and writing about today, are nothing more than a series of small choices, decisions, and actions made well. 

 

Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing.” – Zeno

 

Final thoughts

This might be one of the most important books on Stoicism I’ve read. Instead of telling me what Stoicism is, it showed me. It showed me through the lives of men and women who, not unlike me, decided that average is not good enough. Average leads to acceptance of the status quo, which inevitably descends into chaos. The world needs individuals to resist this form of passive mediocrity and take it upon themselves to live lives of virtue and reason. But how? By learning from those who did it before us. That’s why this book is important. It shows us how to be a Stoic—how to be a force for good in this world.

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Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses and distractions. Mindfulness allows us to take the blinders off and start living with intention. When we practice mindfulness with this perspective, earnestly for the sake of life itself, certain benefits accrue. These benefits can be applied to everyday commitments like work, study, and relationships. These secondary benefits of mindfulness include reduced feelings of stress and anxiety, enhanced memory, and improved focus. Let’s remain on that last one—focus—as the topic of this article.

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I’ve been somewhat obsessed with focus in my own life ever since I read a book called Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown (paid link). That book opened my eyes to the concept of ‘less is more’, but not in a superficial, catch-phrase-y way. The author presents compelling evidence that suggests knowing what is essential in your life, eliminating distractions, and having the courage to make difficult tradeoffs in the relentless pursuit of true focus on those one or two essential things is a huge part of the happiness formula everyone is searching for. This landed home for me because I have struggled with wanting to do it all, with thinking that I can take on the world through sheer willpower, thinking that I can fit it all in.

 

The concept seemed so powerful to me that it set me down a bit of a rabbit hole. I read Deep Work by Cal Newport (paid link), Indistractable by Nir Eyal (paid link), and Peak Mind by Amishi Jha (paid link). Mindfulness is an undercurrent running through all of these wonderful resources. It’s hard these days to find books on human performance that don’t mention mindfulness and meditation. The scientific literature in support of the fact that regular mindfulness practice can improve focus and memory is robust.

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Enough about my personal stance on focus. Let’s dive into what I feel are some of the most salient and useful mindfulness- and science-based tools to help improve your focus. I’ll be leaning on the books I mentioned above, science podcasts such as the Huberman Lab podcast, but also mindfulness tradition works such as How To Focus by Thich Nhat Hanh (paid link) to share what I hope are tips that will help you improve your focus. 

 

Reducing distraction and noise 

 

Distraction is defined as ‘as something that prevents someone from concentrating on something else,’ so it is quite literally the antagonist of focus. There’s acute distraction in the form of someone interrupting your workflow with a question or a car door slamming outside your window as you’re settling into your meditation. Then, there’s chronic distraction, which I believe is one of humanity’s greatest challenges today.

 

Chronic distraction comes in the form of media—the endless stream of 60-second enticing clips that social media companies decide we should see, the sophisticated ads that number in the thousands that we’re exposed to each day, the wide range of projects and topics our employers believe falsely that we’re able to focus on, and the excess of choices that disguise themselves as convenience. 

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Reduce the number of options, choices and opportunities

 

Technology has made it incredibly easy for us to access almost anything, any person, or any place in the world. But it takes time and effort to sift through a long list of options. Options come at a cost. Also, once we do make our choice, we’re left with some degree of uncertainty or dissatisfaction, knowing there were so many other options that may have been better. When faced with an opportunity, ask yourself ‘If this opportunity had not been presented to me, how hard would I be willing to work to obtain it?’ Simplify your life. Decide what works for you and stick to it. Consume less, and have the courage to remain steadfast in your commitments despite what everyone else is doing. When faced with multiple options, rate them on a scale of 1 to 10. If it’s not a 9, then it’s a zero. All of these practices can help you eliminate the distraction of dilemma associated with excess choice. 

 

Close the gates to distraction

 

In mindfulness traditions, it is said that the hindrances of mindful awareness and focused attention come from the outside, not from within. Specifically, distractions enter our conscious experience through the five bodily senses, known as the Five Gates: sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste. Dedicate a 10- to 15-minute meditation session once per week during which you attempt to give your full attention and awareness to one of the five bodily senses. Developing the skill of getting in touch with your senses on a more intimate level builds the capacity to notice distractions as they arise because they often arise through the senses. This is important because we’re bombarded with so many distractions that they become background noise and go easily unnoticed. You can’t avoid what you don’t see. 

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Prevent distraction

 

The best way to reduce distractions in your life is to prevent them from happening in the first place. Turn off notifications on all your apps. Leave your phone in another room when you want to focus. Don’t check email until after 12PM. Send fewer emails. The more emails you send, the more replies you’ll have to eat away at your focus. Be mindful of transitions between tasks, as it’s often in these transitions that we find distractions. Inform others of the times you plan to focus and kindly ask them not to disturb you during these times. However, when you are interrupted by a loved one, respond with compassion. An interruption from a loved one is an ideal opportunity to show you care. 

 

Mindfulness to improve your focus

 

In Buddhism, it is said that mindfulness precedes concentration and concentration precedes insight. Personal and spiritual breakthroughs don’t happen without mindfulness. We must sustain concentration and intention to begin to see clearly. 

 

Many peer-reviewed studies have come to the same conclusion: regular bouts of mindfulness meditation lead to higher levels of focus. The protocols differ slightly between studies but most suggest that 10-15 minutes five times per week will have the desired effect, although longer durations work, too. It makes sense. Mindfulness meditation is the attempt to focus on something, typically the breath, and return focus to that thing once your own thoughts inevitably distract you. The restoring of focus is where the exercise really takes place. By gently returning focus after being distracted by thoughts, over and over, we’re building the ‘muscles’ of focus, and gradually we spend more time focused and less time distracted. 

 

Pure focus is single-pointed awareness. Mindfulness is the ability to remain focused on the here and now. There are many ways to put yourself into a state of mindful awareness. You can focus on the breath. You can concentrate on the sounds around you. But one of my favorite ways to drop into the present moment is to ask myself, ‘What am I thinking right now?’ This breaks the habitual cycle of default-mode thinking and quickly restores my present-moment awareness. 

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The science of focus

 

Studies have shown that 90 minutes seems to be about as long as anyone can sustain deep focus. Structure your day and projects around several periods of 50 to 90 minutes during which you intend to focus deeply. Binaural beats of a frequency of 40Hz have been shown to promote states of focus, so it’s a good idea to listen to them for a few minutes before your focus period begins. You can find tracks of binaural beats at 40Hz on YouTube. Whether the binaural beats or some other practice, it’s important to ease into a session of intense focus. Much like an athlete warms up and stretches before competing, we can’t expect to drop into focus with the snap of a finger. 

 

During periods of focus, you can listen to white, pink, or brown noise, which have also been shown to promote states of focus. They’re great, too, for blocking out ambient conversations if you happen to work or study around other people. When you’re finding it difficult to focus, go for a walk. Fresh air and open spaces can re-energize you, and you may even find that disengaging from your work will allow you to return to it with a fresh perspective. 

 

Final thoughts

 

Although not explicitly, in this article I’ve touched on three different types of focus. I’ve shared tips on how to sit down and focus on a task optimally. I discussed how to take a structured approach to decisions, choices, commitments, and engagements—how to distill them down to only the essential few so that you can give them your full focus. But I’ve also touched on the type of focus that is mindfulness in general. This last one is the most important. The ability to cultivate mindful awareness more often than not is the ability to connect with life. If we’re not focused on life—on the mundane aspects of it like driving home from work or grocery shopping or picking up our kids from school—then what are we focused on? If we can’t see the beauty in these everyday moments, then what are we seeing? Is it social media? Television? Advertisements? Of course we don’t want to focus on those things. We want to focus on the people around us. We want to delight in their presence. We want to listen to our bodies and take restful moments sitting on the grass in the sun. Mindfulness helps build the capacity to focus on a task, sure, but it also helps us regain focus on life itself.

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