The Three Stoic Disciplines: Desire, Action, and Assent

The Three Stoic Disciplines: Desire, Action, and Assent

Stoicism is a guiding framework in my life, but so is business. I can think of no better school of thought than business when it comes to manifesting ideas into reality—big, complex ideas. Schools of business and businesses in practice are fountains of knowledge when it comes to organization, efficiency, and scalability. They provide frameworks on how to approach enormous challenges. Philosophy is like this, too. It gives us direction. Imagine I wake up one day and say, ‘Today, I’m going to start living better.’ It’s a great intention, but it’s laughably unspecific. Now, imagine I share the same statement with a trusted mentor. They would probably ask, ‘How are you going to do this?’ I might reply with, ‘I’ll start exercising, eating better, and reading more instead of watching YouTube.’ The mentor would likely ask, again, ‘How are you going to do this?’ 

 

Living well is no small feat, especially if we’re trying to reverse a tendency of living unwell that we’ve built up over years. This is why it’s useful to unpack philosophies like Stoicism and discuss their distinct teachings. One such teaching is the Three Stoic Disciplines. Doing this regularly gives us that structure that we so often lack when trying to mount a major change in our lives. Let’s explore the Three Stoic Disciplines here, and I hope that we can all revert to them whenever we’re feeling a bit lost or when we waver from our good intentions.

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The Stoic Discipline of Assent

 

The three Stoic disciplines come in no particular order, but I lead here with the Stoic discipline of Assent because I believe it is both the most fundamental of them all and the one that causes the most confusion. 

 

Assent is not a word we use every day. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as, “an act of agreeing to something especially after thoughtful consideration.” The Stoic discipline of Assent teaches us not to give our assent to first impressions of events. It’s the act of withdrawing our assent from our first impressions. In other words, we should not ‘agree’ with or be led along by our first impressions or initial reactions.

 

I don’t like the word Assent to describe this Stoic discipline because unlike the other two disciplines, assent is a negative—giving assent to first impressions is what we should not do. I’m not the only one. Other practitioners and scholars of Stoicism refer to the Stoic discipline of Assent as ‘Stoic mindfulness’, because it is arguably a more useful and intuitive term. 

 

Stoic mindfulness, as a term, communicates the skill required to have the effect we’re looking for, which is not reacting on impulses. Mindfulness, no matter which tradition we derive it from, is a practice that over time builds the ability to remain calm, measured, and composed when faced with external or internal challenges. 

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Stoic mindfulness is also more useful as a term than Stoic Assent because I don’t know of any handbooks on how to get better at withdrawing assent from your initial impressions. I do, however, know that volumes of practical advice have been written on how to practice mindfulness. I also know that although mindfulness is a comprehensive and challenging life practice, it is simple—simple enough that I can explain how to practice mindfulness in just a few words: try to focus on one thing such as your breath and when you become distracted by thoughts simply return your focus and repeat this for 10-30 minutes a day. 

 

We don’t see imagery of the ancient Stoics like Epictetus, Musonius Rufus, or Marcus Aurelius meditating in lotus position. Maybe they did not meditate this way. But they certainly had the ability to control their responses to tough situations. They exercised restraint. They had the ability to pause for a moment, recall their intentions to live virtuously, and respond (not react) to a situation with equanimity and compassion. In this sense, they were very much practitioners of Stoic mindfulness. 

 

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The Stoic Discipline of Desire 

 

While the Stoics may not have been explicitly famous for mindfulness, the Stoic discipline of Desire is where we find a few hallmarks of Stoicism. To the Stoics, the discipline of desire was all about knowing what and what not to desire. 

 

The Dichotomy of Control was one mechanism the Stoics used to figure out what was worth wanting and what was not. The Dichotomy of Control is the simple exercise of, either through discussion, reflection, or journaling, listing the elements of a situation that are within your control and those that are not in your control. It’s simple, yet powerful. What lies within your control is worth pursuing. What is not within your control should be set aside. 

 

A fundamental skill required to practice the Stoic discipline of desire is acceptance. Although the Dichotomy of Control is a simple exercise, it’s not always easy to let go of those things that are not within your control. Moreover, it’s not easy to be honest with ourselves and admit that certain things are outside of our control. We like to think we can do it all—cram it all in, work a little faster, work a little harder. When we lack the courage and temperance to drastically shave down our list of things we’re actively trying to affect in this world, we suffer. We become overstretched. The things that do deserve our attention suffer, too, because we are distracted by extraneous matters. The Stoic discipline of Desire, the Art of Acquiescence, is fundamentally a tradeoff—you let go of some things so that you can focus on others.

 

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The Stoic Discipline of Action

 

In modern times, the Stoic discipline of Action may evoke imagery of the likes of David Goggins, a former Navy SEAL known for extreme mental toughness and discipline. We may think of him in action, running shirtless while hollering motivational slogans at the camera. Even depictions of the ancient Stoics like Marcus Aurelius that we see on social media show them with unrealistically chiseled bodies, evoking an image of physical strength by way of intense physical activity. 

 

However, more accurate figures to represent the Stoic discipline of Action would be the likes of Mahatma Gandhi, Malala Yousafzai, or lesser-known folks like Holden Karnofsky, co-founder of the charity evaluator GiveWell.

 

The Stoic discipline of Action is Stoic philanthropy. It is closely related to the Stoic virtue of Justice, which reminds practitioners of Stoicism that the study and embodiment of ethics and morals is not a closet practice. We work hard to live better so that our positive actions ripple outward, making the world a better place in small or large ways. We strengthen ourselves so that when someone else is in need, we’re capable of helping. 

There are many things within our sphere of influence that we can do to make the world a better place. For anyone looking for ways to make an impact, I strongly recommend the book Doing Good Better: How Effective Altruism Can Help You Help Others, Do Work that Matters, and Make Smarter Choices about Giving Back by William MacAskill (paid link)

 

Final thoughts 

 

I’ve been writing The Mindful Stoic for nearly five years now. I’ve read dozens of books on Stoicism. I really do try to implement what I’ve been studying in my daily life. Despite some experience under my belt, I still need to return to the fundamentals because I tend to slip back onto an easier path—I waver from my intention to live a principled life. I love teachings like the Three Stoic Disciplines because they are easy to digest. But they’re also so useful. Mindfulness and the ability to respond rather than react to situations, the ability to simplify our desires and focus our energy on what truly matters, and finally, a north star of philanthropy and altruism…. Is there a simpler way to live a meaningful life? 

 

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Book Commentary: Lives Of The Stoics by Ryan Holiday

The Stoics were more adamant than most other schools that philosophy is not merely a “critique of words by means of other words,” as Nietzsche put it, but instead was a means for living a good life. This idea is more relevant today than it’s ever been. These days, most people’s touchpoints with philosophy are schools and universities, which employ this “critique of words by means of other words” approach to philosophy. Thus, many see philosophy as something to be studied and debated within the confines of classroom walls. But that’s not what most people want. Most people are looking for guidance, which is why Stoicism has seen such a resurgence in popularity. It is a practical framework that anyone can actually use to live a better life. 

 

The utility and accessibility of Stoicism is but one outstanding theme from Lives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday. The book is a compilation of mini biographies, presenting Stoics chronologically from Zeno of Citium, the school’s founder, to Marcus Aurelius, arguably the most famous Stoic. The book is rich in character. It introduced me to Stoics I had never heard of, some of whom challenge Epictetus’ spot as my favorite Stoic. 

 

There’s Cleanthes, who is known to have carried water at night for a living, deliberately opting for this back-breaking profession because it was a part of his philosophical practice. A king once asked Cleanthes why he still drew water at night, even after having established himself as a great philosopher. Cleanthes replied: 

 

“Is drawing water all that I do?

 

What? Do I not dig? What? 

 

Do I not water the garden? Or

 

Undertake any other labor for the love of philosophy?

 

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There’s Agrippinus, who was one of many Stoics in the Roman era who had to test their philosophy against tyrannical strongmen in power while themselves trying to participate in politics. He dared to be different and stand up for what he believed to be right and paid the price with his freedom—being sent into exile. But he did not complain nor waver from his commitments, we know, from the glowing recounts that come to us from Epictetus: “His character was such that when any hardship befell him he would compose a eulogy upon it.” 

 

We see a similar story, but taken to the extreme in the case of Musonius Rufus. Known to be a major influence for Epictetus, Musonius was exiled not once, not twice, but perhaps a total of four times he was stripped of his freedom. For what? For embodying good with unwavering commitment under the reigns of several cowardly emperors. When asked how he could go on with everything having been taken from him repeatedly, he rejected the premise, saying they could take away his home but not his “ability to endure exile.”

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Commentary on Lives of the Stoic by Ryan Holiday

 

These are my reflections on Lives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday (paid link). I’ll not retell the stories of each of the Stoics featured in the book. That would defeat the purpose of reading it for yourself. Instead, I’d like to extract what I feel are the most salient lessons about Stoicism that arise from the book. 

 

What is Stoicism?

 

There are many ways to define Stoicism. We could say it’s about acting in accordance with nature. We might say, as I often do, that it’s about making the world a better place. We could describe the four Stoic virtues: Courage, Temperance, Wisdom, and Justice. However, these definitions are somewhat vague. Instead, as I learned from this book, we might do well to speak about Stoicism in ways that speak to us as people—as humans. If we did this we might say that Stoicism is all about cultivating tranquility, purpose, self-control, and happiness. 

 

Tranquility can be found through mindfulness. We can take breaks from our endeavors and develop the skill of present-moment awareness. This is the foundation upon which all good actions are built. 

 

Purpose, as the Stoics taught, is not a selfish game. Our purpose should be to leave things better than how we found them. 

 

Self-control is a Stoic pursuit because living well is hard. Living a life of mindfulness requires dedication. Doing the right thing often means resisting the easy thing, or the delicious thing, or the pleasurable thing.

 

Happiness is the most difficult one to describe. Search for the meaning of happiness and you’ll find a thousand different answers. All I can do is offer mine. For me, happiness is a two-pronged fork. One side is gratitude. The other is agency—our ability to move freely through our environment, without excessive resistance, failure, or idleness.  

 

What is a good Stoic?

 

A good Stoic is someone who makes choices that support higher values. A good Stoic serves good causes. A good Stoic does not waver from their higher values nor their commitment to good causes when life becomes difficult. 

 

“A Stoic is someone who transforms fear into prudence, pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb

 

Stoicism and death

 

The Stoics taught a lot about how one should approach death. They realized that death is not something we face in a brief flash at the very end. Death is happening right now. Death is always present, it just occupies more space as more time goes by. The Stoics saw acceptance of death as fundamental in their philosophy because fear is a major impediment of moral behavior. If we can get over the ultimate fear that is death, then we develop a healthier relationship with fear itself, thus making ourselves more capable of living virtuously. Finally, the pervasiveness of death, to the Stoics, meant that we cannot waste a precious second of this beautiful, finite thing we call life. Therefore, death is an impetus for living with gratitude today. 

 

“It is not possible to live well today unless one thinks of it as his last.” – Musonius Rufus

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Personal transformation

 

If you’re like me, you were introduced to Stoicism late in life. Again, if you’re like me, you lived for decades with anxieties and self-doubt without any guidance or help. I learned from this book that it’s never too late to undergo personal transformation. Personal philosophies derived from wisdom traditions like Stoicism or Buddhism are an immense help, but ultimately self-transformation requires a lot of courage. Lives of the Stoics also showed that we need mentors and teachers to show us the way. 

 

Daimon: the universal guiding spirit

 

According to Stoicism’s founder, Zeno, we must strive to find a “smooth flow of life,” in everything we do to promote “harmonious accord with each man’s guiding spirit and the will of the one who governs the universe.” This is strikingly similar to Taoism and Zen Buddhism—the idea that our true nature is harmony with nature, not resistance or aggression towards it. The Greeks called it daimon, which they believed was an inner guiding spirit that connects all of us to nature. To some, this might sound a bit too esoteric. To others, like myself, it’s reassuring. It tells me that I have everything I need to live a purposeful, tranquil, and happy life. These things are in my nature. Anything else is an external influence. 

A Stoic life is lived one step at a time 

 

Reading about the ancient Stoics, we may get the impression that they had something that we lack today. Perhaps they were able to live with virtue more easily than us for whatever reason, be it less access to information, not being connected to social networks 24/7. The stories you’ll read in Lives of the Stoics may seem lofty or unrelated at times. But when you look closely, you see these were just ordinary men and women of their times. They were not born enlightened. There was nothing special about their era that made it easier for them to live virtuously. When you read closely, you see that none of them became great Stoics remembered by history overnight. Their lives, the ones we’re reading and writing about today, are nothing more than a series of small choices, decisions, and actions made well. 

 

Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing.” – Zeno

 

Final thoughts

This might be one of the most important books on Stoicism I’ve read. Instead of telling me what Stoicism is, it showed me. It showed me through the lives of men and women who, not unlike me, decided that average is not good enough. Average leads to acceptance of the status quo, which inevitably descends into chaos. The world needs individuals to resist this form of passive mediocrity and take it upon themselves to live lives of virtue and reason. But how? By learning from those who did it before us. That’s why this book is important. It shows us how to be a Stoic—how to be a force for good in this world.

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Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses and distractions. Mindfulness allows us to take the blinders off and start living with intention. When we practice mindfulness with this perspective, earnestly for the sake of life itself, certain benefits accrue. These benefits can be applied to everyday commitments like work, study, and relationships. These secondary benefits of mindfulness include reduced feelings of stress and anxiety, enhanced memory, and improved focus. Let’s remain on that last one—focus—as the topic of this article.

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I’ve been somewhat obsessed with focus in my own life ever since I read a book called Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown (paid link). That book opened my eyes to the concept of ‘less is more’, but not in a superficial, catch-phrase-y way. The author presents compelling evidence that suggests knowing what is essential in your life, eliminating distractions, and having the courage to make difficult tradeoffs in the relentless pursuit of true focus on those one or two essential things is a huge part of the happiness formula everyone is searching for. This landed home for me because I have struggled with wanting to do it all, with thinking that I can take on the world through sheer willpower, thinking that I can fit it all in.

 

The concept seemed so powerful to me that it set me down a bit of a rabbit hole. I read Deep Work by Cal Newport (paid link), Indistractable by Nir Eyal (paid link), and Peak Mind by Amishi Jha (paid link). Mindfulness is an undercurrent running through all of these wonderful resources. It’s hard these days to find books on human performance that don’t mention mindfulness and meditation. The scientific literature in support of the fact that regular mindfulness practice can improve focus and memory is robust.

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Enough about my personal stance on focus. Let’s dive into what I feel are some of the most salient and useful mindfulness- and science-based tools to help improve your focus. I’ll be leaning on the books I mentioned above, science podcasts such as the Huberman Lab podcast, but also mindfulness tradition works such as How To Focus by Thich Nhat Hanh (paid link) to share what I hope are tips that will help you improve your focus. 

 

Reducing distraction and noise 

 

Distraction is defined as ‘as something that prevents someone from concentrating on something else,’ so it is quite literally the antagonist of focus. There’s acute distraction in the form of someone interrupting your workflow with a question or a car door slamming outside your window as you’re settling into your meditation. Then, there’s chronic distraction, which I believe is one of humanity’s greatest challenges today.

 

Chronic distraction comes in the form of media—the endless stream of 60-second enticing clips that social media companies decide we should see, the sophisticated ads that number in the thousands that we’re exposed to each day, the wide range of projects and topics our employers believe falsely that we’re able to focus on, and the excess of choices that disguise themselves as convenience. 

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Reduce the number of options, choices and opportunities

 

Technology has made it incredibly easy for us to access almost anything, any person, or any place in the world. But it takes time and effort to sift through a long list of options. Options come at a cost. Also, once we do make our choice, we’re left with some degree of uncertainty or dissatisfaction, knowing there were so many other options that may have been better. When faced with an opportunity, ask yourself ‘If this opportunity had not been presented to me, how hard would I be willing to work to obtain it?’ Simplify your life. Decide what works for you and stick to it. Consume less, and have the courage to remain steadfast in your commitments despite what everyone else is doing. When faced with multiple options, rate them on a scale of 1 to 10. If it’s not a 9, then it’s a zero. All of these practices can help you eliminate the distraction of dilemma associated with excess choice. 

 

Close the gates to distraction

 

In mindfulness traditions, it is said that the hindrances of mindful awareness and focused attention come from the outside, not from within. Specifically, distractions enter our conscious experience through the five bodily senses, known as the Five Gates: sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste. Dedicate a 10- to 15-minute meditation session once per week during which you attempt to give your full attention and awareness to one of the five bodily senses. Developing the skill of getting in touch with your senses on a more intimate level builds the capacity to notice distractions as they arise because they often arise through the senses. This is important because we’re bombarded with so many distractions that they become background noise and go easily unnoticed. You can’t avoid what you don’t see. 

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Prevent distraction

 

The best way to reduce distractions in your life is to prevent them from happening in the first place. Turn off notifications on all your apps. Leave your phone in another room when you want to focus. Don’t check email until after 12PM. Send fewer emails. The more emails you send, the more replies you’ll have to eat away at your focus. Be mindful of transitions between tasks, as it’s often in these transitions that we find distractions. Inform others of the times you plan to focus and kindly ask them not to disturb you during these times. However, when you are interrupted by a loved one, respond with compassion. An interruption from a loved one is an ideal opportunity to show you care. 

 

Mindfulness to improve your focus

 

In Buddhism, it is said that mindfulness precedes concentration and concentration precedes insight. Personal and spiritual breakthroughs don’t happen without mindfulness. We must sustain concentration and intention to begin to see clearly. 

 

Many peer-reviewed studies have come to the same conclusion: regular bouts of mindfulness meditation lead to higher levels of focus. The protocols differ slightly between studies but most suggest that 10-15 minutes five times per week will have the desired effect, although longer durations work, too. It makes sense. Mindfulness meditation is the attempt to focus on something, typically the breath, and return focus to that thing once your own thoughts inevitably distract you. The restoring of focus is where the exercise really takes place. By gently returning focus after being distracted by thoughts, over and over, we’re building the ‘muscles’ of focus, and gradually we spend more time focused and less time distracted. 

 

Pure focus is single-pointed awareness. Mindfulness is the ability to remain focused on the here and now. There are many ways to put yourself into a state of mindful awareness. You can focus on the breath. You can concentrate on the sounds around you. But one of my favorite ways to drop into the present moment is to ask myself, ‘What am I thinking right now?’ This breaks the habitual cycle of default-mode thinking and quickly restores my present-moment awareness. 

The science of focus

 

Studies have shown that 90 minutes seems to be about as long as anyone can sustain deep focus. Structure your day and projects around several periods of 50 to 90 minutes during which you intend to focus deeply. Binaural beats of a frequency of 40Hz have been shown to promote states of focus, so it’s a good idea to listen to them for a few minutes before your focus period begins. You can find tracks of binaural beats at 40Hz on YouTube. Whether the binaural beats or some other practice, it’s important to ease into a session of intense focus. Much like an athlete warms up and stretches before competing, we can’t expect to drop into focus with the snap of a finger. 

 

During periods of focus, you can listen to white, pink, or brown noise, which have also been shown to promote states of focus. They’re great, too, for blocking out ambient conversations if you happen to work or study around other people. When you’re finding it difficult to focus, go for a walk. Fresh air and open spaces can re-energize you, and you may even find that disengaging from your work will allow you to return to it with a fresh perspective. 

 

Final thoughts

 

Although not explicitly, in this article I’ve touched on three different types of focus. I’ve shared tips on how to sit down and focus on a task optimally. I discussed how to take a structured approach to decisions, choices, commitments, and engagements—how to distill them down to only the essential few so that you can give them your full focus. But I’ve also touched on the type of focus that is mindfulness in general. This last one is the most important. The ability to cultivate mindful awareness more often than not is the ability to connect with life. If we’re not focused on life—on the mundane aspects of it like driving home from work or grocery shopping or picking up our kids from school—then what are we focused on? If we can’t see the beauty in these everyday moments, then what are we seeing? Is it social media? Television? Advertisements? Of course we don’t want to focus on those things. We want to focus on the people around us. We want to delight in their presence. We want to listen to our bodies and take restful moments sitting on the grass in the sun. Mindfulness helps build the capacity to focus on a task, sure, but it also helps us regain focus on life itself.

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In the eyes of some, the people I’m about to introduce don’t belong in a discussion about modern Stoicism. None of them are self-proclaimed Stoics. But they do display extreme commitment to the four Stoic virtues: courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice. 

 

Yeonmi Park is a North Korean defector who displayed incredible courage in her escape to Seoul and her subsequent opposition campaign against the oppressive North Korean regime, despite the grave danger involved in taking such a stand. 

 

Josh Dubin is a New York lawyer who has dedicated much of his career working for The Innocence Project, which serves justice by giving wrongly convicted people their lives back, many of whom spent decades rotting in prison for having done nothing. 

 

Master Shi Heng Yi of the Shaolin Buddhist tradition is a living embodiment of temperance—striking balance between hard and soft through a blend of rigorous martial arts training and wisdom practices of compassion and meditation. 

 

For modern wisdom, we can turn to William MacAskill, Associate Professor at the University of Oxford. His work focuses on the fundamentals of effective altruism. He’s also a co-founder of the Centre for Effective Altruism and author of the book Doing Good Better: How Effective Altruism Can Help You Help Others, Do Work that Matters, and Make Smarter Choices about Giving Back, which we’ll discuss in further detail later. His work has encouraged countless altruistic actions, but not just any altruistic actions. His work on defining and popularizing effective altruism makes sure charitable efforts are as efficient and effective as possible, saving the most lives per dollar spent. 

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What is modern Stoicism?

 

These modern Stoics show us that you don’t have to have lived in ancient Greece or imperial Rome to be a Stoic. You can be a little girl who grew up literally not knowing what freedom was. You can come from humble beginnings and become one of America’s most effective criminal justice reformers. You can, through practices as accessible as meditation and physical training, cultivate balance between strength and stillness. You can use your cognitive talents to figure out how best to save people’s lives.

 

These people don’t have magic powers, and I’m sure the Stoicism purists out there are scoffing that I’d write about the likes of a Shaolin master in an article about modern Stoicism, but I did so to demonstrate the following point: modern Stoicism is accessible and practical. It fits within our contemporary context. Live in a country with a systematically broken criminal justice system? You can do something about it. Live under an oppressive regime in which the words for ‘freedom’ and ‘justice’ have literally been eradicated? You can escape it and spread the word against it from the other side. Have a body and mind? You can train them to be strong and calm. Have intellectual talents and the privilege of having been born in a first-world country? You can use these advantages to do outsized good in this world. 

 

So what is modern Stoicism? It’s Stoicism for anyone who wants to bring clarity, structure, and purpose to the mission of being the best possible version of themselves in the 21st century. Let’s discuss some core characteristics of modern Stoicism in its most accessible and practical form. 

 

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Modern Stoicism is not the study of history

 

I’ve already alluded to the Stoicism purists. They are the ones online commenting scornfully at people’s lack of true understanding of Stoicism—accusing people of subscribing to ‘broicism’. Sure, Stoicism and Hellenistic philosophy in general are deep, deep subjects on which one could write a doctoral thesis. Stoicism has metaphysics. Stoicism has theology. But none of that matters to the average person trying to do better in this life. So please, don’t recoil from Stoicism when you hear debates over the axiology of pleasure and pain and why the Epicureans were wrong. Stoicism can and should be a set of simple guiding principles based on which you can live your life. Take what resonates with you. Leave the rest. For me personally, I find the Dichotomy of Control and the concept of Premeditatio malorum to be particularly helpful foundations of Stoicism. They’re useful as I go throughout my day.

 

Modern Stoics know their core principles 

 

The Stoics were influenced by Socrates, and if the teachings of Socrates could be summed up in two words, they would be ‘Know yourself.’ Today, we don’t give ourselves enough time to think. A modern Stoic takes time to sit down and figure out what’s truly important to them. I argue that the ultimate aim of Stoicism has always been to make the world a better place. But that’s not my ultimate priority. For me, the health, happiness, and peace of my immediate family is my number one priority. My second priority is making the world a better place. I know this. I start each day reminding myself of this. Health, happiness, and peace are my core values. I look for ways I can affect them for the good, starting with myself and family and then circling outward to anyone and everyone. What’s your top priority? A modern Stoic knows.

 

How to practice modern Stoicism

 

I said we would discuss the book Doing Good Better (paid link) by our modern Stoic, William MacAskill. Here we go. The book is a comprehensive guide to effective altruism, which is the practice of directing charitable effort and money to the charitable projects that will be most effective at solving the world’s biggest problems. Effective altruism does not take words like ‘most’ or ‘biggest’ lightly. Instead, it uses modern economics and quantitative data to define them precisely. 

 

In the book, MacAskill writes about how ordinary people should be wise about seemingly mundane decisions, because in almost everything we do there is a way to ‘do good better’. The book is abounding with counter-intuitive wisdom. For example, a young person about to graduate and who wants to do real good in this world would be wise to work for a nonprofit or NGO, right? Well, it depends. What’s the incremental good that person would do by joining a nonprofit at that time? The author explains that it depends on the economic conditions surrounding the problem that nonprofit works on and the supply and demand of that job title. 

 

It also depends on the unique skills and economic circumstances of the young student. There’s a whole section of the book dedicated to a concept of effective altruism called ‘earning to give,’ which states that in many cases for people living in highly developed countries, the most good they can possibly do in this world is not work for an NGO, but instead become highly specialized, get a high-paying job, and donate significant portions of their income to the most effective charities. 

 

This book should be on the shelf of any aspiring modern Stoic. Stoicism is about doing good in this world. From our career choices to what we buy at the supermarket, we all have the capacity and, in Stoicism, the obligation, to make the world a better place. Often, we just don’t know how to do this. This book gives you many, non-obvious ways you can make a positive impact in the 21st century. 

 

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Modern Stoicism and mental fortitude 

 

Now, I’m really going to piss off the Stoicism purists by saying modern Stoics should take cold showers (really, it was the Cynics who popularized deliberate cold and heat exposure). But we should. There’s an abundance of scientific evidence, albeit without perfect consensus, that deliberate cold exposure has physical health benefits. It can reduce inflammation. It creates thermogenesis in the body, which promotes weight loss. It creates a lasting increase in dopamine. But that’s not necessarily why we should do it. 

 

Studies also suggest that deliberate cold exposure increases one’s stress tolerance. Getting into an icy bath or a cold shower is stressful, and it should not be done without the advice and guidance of a medical professional, but there’s nothing like cold water for inducing a stress response under controlled conditions. It’s an opportunity to practice remaining calm and resilient under stress. This builds a stress-control skill that translates to real-world conditions. Think of it as a stress inoculation.

 

The same is true for rigorous exercise. People don’t realize it because all we hear is that exercise is so good for you, and of course it is, but exercise is a stress event for the body. If you were to measure the vitals of someone after doing twenty burpees and showed them to a doctor who didn’t know the context, the doctor would tell you this person is likely about to die. But we don’t die. We adapt. We get stronger. Like deliberate cold exposure, exercise is an accessible, zero-cost way to train the mind and body to handle stress. The more we do it under controlled conditions, the better equipped we’ll be when life throws us a curveball. 

Modern Stoicism and modern CBT 

 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a leading modern approach to psychotherapy. Its founder, Aaron Beck, openly referenced Stoicism and other ancient Greek philosophies as sources of insight informing his development of CBT. In ancient Greece and in the offices of psychiatrists today, we’re taught techniques such as ‘decatastrophizing’, which is the practice of explaining external events in plain, concise language.

 

Instead of ‘I lost my job because of xyz and now this and that is going to happen,’ say instead, ‘I lost my job. Now I need to find another one.’ Modern Stoics and/or those consulting with a psychiatrist don’t play into fabricated fears and doubts by asking, ‘What if…?’—’what if this happens?’, ‘what if this person doesn’t love me?’, ‘what if I make a mistake?’ Instead they ask, ‘So what…?’—’if an imagined negative outcome really does occur, how will I handle it?’, ‘what strengths or talents do I possess that I can use to overcome it?’, ‘will I be OK?’. The answer to that last question is almost always yes. 

 

“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (paid link)

 

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I bring up modern CBT not only to give more credibility to Stoic wisdom, but to make another point about modern Stoicism, which is that modern Stoics are self-reflective. They use journals to assess the day’s events. They meditate. They carve out distraction-free time. But they also do not hesitate to see a psychiatrist, which is arguably the most effective form of self-inquiry. Whether it’s to address a specific problem or simply part of a mental health regimen (not unlike a physical health regimen), modern Stoics seek professional guidance. They also seek teachers and mentors, because a truly wise person knows that no amount of reading and self-discipline can break down the blinders that we ourselves put up. True self-discovery cannot happen in a vacuum. 

 

The pitfalls of memes

 

There are a lot of great content creators out there within the Stoicism niche. I myself post content on social media about Stoicism on The Mindful Stoic’s social accounts. However, I fear that some young people may fall into the trap of following a bunch of Stoicism content creators and subsequently feeling as though they are practicing Stoicism. I’m not saying young people shouldn’t follow Stoicism on social media. There is value in the quotes and memes, but they’re not enough. To be a Stoic is to think, speak, and act like a Stoic. To be a Stoic is to regularly disrupt one’s comfort zone in the name of greater good. 

 

Final thoughts

 

In essence, modern Stoicism is not much different compared to ancient Stoicism. The ancient Stoics, like us, had to balance jobs, families, and politics with their desire to live principled lives. What’s different is the context in which we live. The ancients didn’t have to contend with thousands of sophisticated marketing ads being shoved down their throats each week. They weren’t ‘connected’ 24/7. As I mentioned earlier, I feel modern Stoics should choose the Stoic principles, practices, and virtues that most resonate with them, at least when first starting out. But perhaps the one Stoic concept that is lacking in modern society and is most indispensable for any aspiring Stoic is the reverence of character. The ancient Stoics believed that one’s character was the only thing that can be truly good or bad. So if nothing else, modern Stoics cannot compromise on character. Therefore, they must treat the ingredients of character—thoughts, speech, and actions—as no small matters.

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