Summary of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations: The Most Popular Parts

Summary of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations: The Most Popular Parts

 

I thought I would do something different for the summary of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations. I’ve gone through the ‘popular highlights’ section of the Kindle version to pull out the most highlighted sections by thousands of readers from all around the world. 

 

Some of the key points from Meditations that I’ll be sharing in this summary of Meditations by Marcus Aurelius have been highlighted over ten thousand times! 

 

If that many people took the time to highlight the same section, it must mean that it contains some valuable wisdom.

This post contains affiliate links, which help us keep the blog afloat. Click here for more information.

Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations summary

 

For this summary, I’ll provide the Marcus Aurelius quotes in their entirety and add my own commentary for each one. 

 

“It is, in other words, not objects and events but the interpretations we place on them that are the problem. Our duty is therefore to exercise stringent control over the faculty of perception, with the aim of protecting our mind from error.” 

Here, Marcus Aurelius encapsulates a fundamental concept of Stoicism, which is that nothing except our character can be judged as good or bad. He makes this point inadvertently by reminding us that only our judgment of events can determine their quality. 

 

“Stop allowing your mind to be a slave, to be jerked about by selfish impulses, to kick against fate and the present, and to mistrust the future.”

Aurelius is imploring us to remain steady in the present moment. We must embrace the unknown, have confidence in our ability to handle future challenges, and above all, remain present in the process of working on what we can control here and now.

 

“Concentrate every minute like a Roman—like a man—on doing what’s in front of you with precise and genuine seriousness, tenderly, willingly, with justice. And on freeing yourself from all other distractions. Yes, you can—if you do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life, and stop being aimless, stop letting your emotions override what your mind tells you, stop being hypocritical, self-centered, irritable.”

Often, we treat certain tasks and activities as stepping stones toward something else. We rush to complete them so that we can move on. Here, Marcus is urging us to focus on the process and treat every task as if it were the most important. He also implores us to stop making excuses. 

 

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” 

This is a classic, memento mori quote from Marcus Aurelius. Life is finite, and we only get so many chances to act in harmony with our values. 

 

“The longest-lived and those who will die soonest lose the same thing. The present is all that they can give up, since that is all you have, and what you do not have, you cannot lose.” 

This reminds us of the paramount importance of present moment mindfulness because the present is where life happens.

 

“Don’t waste the rest of your time here worrying about other people—unless it affects the common good. It will keep you from doing anything useful. You’ll be too preoccupied with what so-and-so is doing, and why, and what they’re saying, and what they’re thinking, and what they’re up to, and all the other things that throw you off and keep you from focusing on your own mind.” 

This passage contains two important lessons. The first is quite clear: don’t worry about other people. Instead, focus on yourself. The second is a reminder of the ultimate purpose of Stoicism, which is to make the world a better place. Therefore, we can and should concern ourselves with others when we are certain that speaking up or taking action will make the world better. 

The pursuit of balance podcast year end sale, save 60%

“Forget everything else. Keep hold of this alone and remember it. Each of us lives only now, this brief instant. The rest has been lived already, or is impossible to see.” 

Again, Aurelius urges us to live in the present moment. This call to mindful awareness is yet another striking similarity between Buddhism and Stoicism. 

 

“Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been.” 

We need to constantly remind ourselves of our intention to live without attachment to our ego. All our lives, we’ve been conditioning our ego to take center stage, so it requires a constant reminder of our intention to deflate it. Once we do develop non-attachment to the ego, we will be less susceptible to insult and injury. 

 

“So remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.” 

The ancient Stoics, including Marcus Aurelius, taught that we should be grateful for challenges because they are the most important means of testing our philosophical practices. If not for challenges, we wouldn’t know how far we’ve come or where to improve in our practice. 

 

“The things you think about determine the quality of your mind. Your soul takes on the color of your thoughts.” 

This well-known Marcus Aurelius quote reminds us that we do have some agency over our thoughts. With practice, effort, and compassion for ourselves, we can try to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. 

watch the pursuit of balance podcast now

Summary of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations: The Key Takeaways

 

  • Only our character can be judged as good or bad.
  • Worries about the future and regret about the past are the biggest impediments to living in the present moment. Embracing fate and having confidence in yourself is the key to remaining present. 
  • Focus on the process and treat all tasks with the utmost care. 
  • Remember that life is short, and let that reality motivate you to live well.
  • The present moment is the most precious thing a person has. 
  • Don’t focus on others, unless they are causing harm to the world.
  • With less attachment to the ego, we are less susceptible to the praise and criticism of others.
  • Be grateful for challenges because they are valuable testing and learning opportunities.
  • Make an effort to have positive thoughts. 

 

I hope you enjoyed this summary of Marcus Aurelius’ meditations. For more book summaries, click here to check out our book summaries playlist on YouTube

Guided Sleep Meditation: A Stoic Approach to Restful Nights

Sleep may just be the most important input to human health, yet it often eludes us. I’ve certainly had my struggles with sleep. With all the rushing, scrolling, and multitasking we do, it’s no wonder many struggle to find the calm needed to drift into restorative...

Introduction To Stoicism And Mindfulness

If you're new to mindfulness or Stoicism, we hope you'll find these articles written as introductory resources useful. We aim to answer questions like "What is mindfulness?" and "How can I begin practicing Stoicism?" We hope something here will set you off on your...

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses...

Where Buddhism And Modern Psychology Converge On Mental Wellness

When the average non-Buddhist westerner thinks of Buddhism, they often think of meditation, kindness, and monks with shaved heads in orange robes. But what lies beneath these surface-level artifacts is profound understanding. Few wisdom traditions have delivered as...

Karma In Buddhism: Sowing The Seeds Of Love

In modern times, we use the word karma in many ways. ‘Ain’t karma a bitch’—meaning what ‘Goes around, comes around.’ It can also refer to the Golden Rule from the Hebrew and Christian Bible: ‘Do unto others what as you would have them do unto you.’ But, in the context...

What The Death Of Marcus Aurelius Teaches Us About Life

Marcus Aurelius died in a cold, dark place, but his last words shined bright with a message of hope: “Go to the rising sun, for I am already setting.” He delivered these words not to a beloved, but to a guard of the night’s watch in his military camp near the...

Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

  What if there was a way you could train your wisdom and insight? No tools or equipment required. No books to read. No classes to attend. All you’d need is a few minutes each day. Such a means of building a wider perspective and developing clear insight exists....

Right Mindfulness & Right Concentration Of The Eightfold Path

If I were to define Zen Buddhism, I would do so in two four-word sentences:   Absolute attention is prayer. Compassion for all beings.   “Zen teaches nothing. It merely enables us to wake up and become aware. It does not teach; it points. The truth of Zen is...

The Three Jewels Of The Tao: Embracing The Way Of Water

Well, the first challenge in understanding the Tao is its definition. Translated literally, 'The Tao' means 'The Way'. The very first verse of this ancient teaching warns that it’s useless to try to define or name The Tao: The Tao that can be toldIs not the eternal...

21 Human Performance Tips For Busy People

To say my life is busy is an understatement. Writing this blog is my passion. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But writing the blog, two weekly newsletters, and a book is a tall order. There is no team, there are no editors, web developers, graphic designers, or...
Ataraxia: How Stoics Achieve Equanimity

Ataraxia: How Stoics Achieve Equanimity

Let’s paint a picture. Imagine drops of water landing on a lotus leaf and sliding down and off. The drop doesn’t linger. It makes its impact and then flows with gravity until it is gone. The lotus leaf is aware of the drop—it feels it—but it does not reject, retain, or struggle. It is undisturbed. This is a picture of the Stoic concept of ataraxia.

 

Just like the lotus leaf, we all have the capacity to let negative reactions and excessive desire roll off our backs. 

 

In this article, we’ll provide a definition of ataraxia as it relates to Stoicism and share practices for achieving ataraxia by breaking it down to its core components: composure, steadiness, ego, and quietude. 

This post contains affiliate links, which help us keep the blog afloat. Click here for more information.

Drop of water on a lotus leaf to represent ataraxia

What is ataraxia?

 

Ataraxia in Stoicism and other Hellenistic philosophies such as Epicureanism is a state of composure characterized by lack of distress and outward displays of strong emotion, especially in difficult situations. Essentially, ataraxia is equanimity.

 

Achieving ataraxia was never the primary objective of Stoicism. That coveted pinnacle is to live in accordance with nature through developing strong moral character. Ataraxia was seen as a by-product of one’s pursuit of moral character. 

 

Imperturbability is another word that’s closely related to ataraxia. More simply, ataraxia is a state of non-reaction. It is not a denial of feelings. We feel what the world throws at us, both the good and the bad, but we don’t react or at least don’t overreact. Ataraxia is commonly associated with calm, but calm is just how ataraxia appears to the observer. With ataraxia, we let go of troubles, sadness, or anger quickly and calmly. So ataraxia means that we feel the ups and downs of life, we can get upset, we can have plans and preferences, but we let go of charged emotions or intense cravings in a timely manner.

 

How Stoics achieve ataraxia 

 

In his book, Stillness Is The Key, Ryan Holiday speaks of what it means to achieve ataraxia: 

 

“To be steady while the world spins around you. To act without frenzy. To hear only what needs to be heard. To possess quietude—exterior and interior—on command.” 

 

If we were to break this definition of ataraxia down to its most fundamental components, we’d be left with a useful framework for achieving ataraxia in our own lives. These components are composure, steadiness, ego, and quietude.

The pursuit of balance podcast year end sale, save 60%

Composure as a component of ataraxia

 

To be composed amid chaos is to be grounded. Think of a pebble tossed into a raging river. Engulfed in the force of rushing water, it sinks effortlessly to its destination where it will remain still as the water flows overhead. 

 

To build the habit of composed behavior in stressful situations, the first practical step is to stop. The next time you find yourself being swept along by emotions or events, simply pause. All it takes to drastically change your response is five seconds during which you do nothing but breathe.

 

Then, after you’ve mastered the ability to pause, which ultimately reminds you of your intention to handle the situation with composure and provides a more relaxed physiological response, you can begin to leverage other practices of Stoicism to help you navigate the complexity. You can practice negative visualization to anticipate and mitigate risk. You can use The Dichotomy of Control to identify what is within and what is outside of your control. Find guidance by recalling the Four Stoic Virtues

 

The first step to practice is the pause. 

 

Steadiness as a component of ataraxia

 

It’s not sexy advice, but to practice steadiness and to ultimately cultivate ataraxia is to slow down. Doing anything even just five percent slower makes your actions more deliberate and precise. Start practicing this with simple things like preparing a meal. Once your default state is a little bit slower, you’ll speak with more purpose in meetings, your writing will be clearer, and you’ll be more caring with those you love. 

 

Another aspect of steadiness is consistency. Whether it’s your desire to achieve ataraxia or your Stoicism practice in general, you will falter at times. You will have lazy and undisciplined moments. You will make mistakes. The key is to reset yourself on the path as quickly as possible. Keep the intervals between lapses in discipline as short as possible, and show up for yourself every day.

Drop of water on a lotus leaf as a visual representation of ataraxia

Ego as a component of ataraxia

 

I read a lot about Buddhism, and in no small part because I’m motivated to learn more about the concept of non-self. There are even science-based arguments that suggest that our concept of self is often unreliable, false, and largely repetitive. 

 

Non-self is very difficult to grasp and it takes a lot of practice. But, we can take some steps towards healthier levels of attachment to the concept of ‘me’. 

 

First, we need to acknowledge that our sense of self is composed of beliefs. These beliefs are fluid and constantly changing. So, when someone insults or criticizes me, I shouldn’t feel that it’s an attack on the entirety of my being. At most, it’s just someone’s belief that opposes a belief I hold about myself. When someone calls you lazy, don’t feel injured at the level of your whole self. It’s nothing more than a challenge to your belief about your work-ethic. 

 

Another aspect of imperturbability of the ego is believing that you are whole. There is nothing anyone could add to your existence that would make it better or worse. There is nothing anyone could subtract from your existence that would make it better or worse. Be at peace with yourself. Love yourself. Don’t rely on external conditions to be happy.

 

Quietude as a component of ataraxia

 

The most practical way to develop ataraxia is to focus on your thoughts and your speech. 

 

There’s a lot of debate on the validity of certain claims about how neuro linguistic programming can positively affect mood and behavior. Basically, some say that the more positive your self-talk is, the better you’ll feel and behave. 

 

Intuitively, I can see how this could be true. Also, I can’t see a downside to attempting to foster positive thoughts in place of negative ones. Be confident in your self-talk. Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes. Try to observe how repetitive your negative self-talk is. The mind likes to play the hits. In a way, this means that negative self-talk—all that doubting, self-limiting, and worrying internal banter—is quite boring and meaningless. Try to plant the seeds of positivity with your thoughts. 

 

With our speech, we can embrace frugality and purpose. It’s OK to be the quietest person in the room. Saying less leaves more room for listening. You can learn so much more from listening than by speaking. In heated interpersonal matters, practice the pause we spoke about earlier. Take a moment to recall your intention. Is your ultimate goal in this situation to make a point? Or is your goal to maintain a healthy relationship? If it’s someone you care about, I suspect it’s the latter, so maybe don’t make that point—don’t be right. Instead, let your speech reflect empathy and promote reconciliation. 

watch the pursuit of balance podcast now

Final thoughts 

 

When we hear a concept with a Greek name like ataraxia, it can seem a bit foreign and irrelevant. But, when we define the concept and break it down into smaller, actionable components, it becomes easier to grasp. Ataraxia is equanimity, imperturbability, and being unshakable. Resilience is part of it, too, because Stoics are not robots. We have emotions, desires, and preferences, but we strive to harmonize our speech and actions with our values. This means pausing to think. Then, when we do act or speak, we use forethought and deliberation. Finally, we are not so easily hurt by the words of others because we are not inflexibly attached to the notion of self. 

Guided Sleep Meditation: A Stoic Approach to Restful Nights

Sleep may just be the most important input to human health, yet it often eludes us. I’ve certainly had my struggles with sleep. With all the rushing, scrolling, and multitasking we do, it’s no wonder many struggle to find the calm needed to drift into restorative...

Introduction To Stoicism And Mindfulness

If you're new to mindfulness or Stoicism, we hope you'll find these articles written as introductory resources useful. We aim to answer questions like "What is mindfulness?" and "How can I begin practicing Stoicism?" We hope something here will set you off on your...

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses...

Where Buddhism And Modern Psychology Converge On Mental Wellness

When the average non-Buddhist westerner thinks of Buddhism, they often think of meditation, kindness, and monks with shaved heads in orange robes. But what lies beneath these surface-level artifacts is profound understanding. Few wisdom traditions have delivered as...

Karma In Buddhism: Sowing The Seeds Of Love

In modern times, we use the word karma in many ways. ‘Ain’t karma a bitch’—meaning what ‘Goes around, comes around.’ It can also refer to the Golden Rule from the Hebrew and Christian Bible: ‘Do unto others what as you would have them do unto you.’ But, in the context...

What The Death Of Marcus Aurelius Teaches Us About Life

Marcus Aurelius died in a cold, dark place, but his last words shined bright with a message of hope: “Go to the rising sun, for I am already setting.” He delivered these words not to a beloved, but to a guard of the night’s watch in his military camp near the...

Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

  What if there was a way you could train your wisdom and insight? No tools or equipment required. No books to read. No classes to attend. All you’d need is a few minutes each day. Such a means of building a wider perspective and developing clear insight exists....

Right Mindfulness & Right Concentration Of The Eightfold Path

If I were to define Zen Buddhism, I would do so in two four-word sentences:   Absolute attention is prayer. Compassion for all beings.   “Zen teaches nothing. It merely enables us to wake up and become aware. It does not teach; it points. The truth of Zen is...

The Three Jewels Of The Tao: Embracing The Way Of Water

Well, the first challenge in understanding the Tao is its definition. Translated literally, 'The Tao' means 'The Way'. The very first verse of this ancient teaching warns that it’s useless to try to define or name The Tao: The Tao that can be toldIs not the eternal...

21 Human Performance Tips For Busy People

To say my life is busy is an understatement. Writing this blog is my passion. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But writing the blog, two weekly newsletters, and a book is a tall order. There is no team, there are no editors, web developers, graphic designers, or...

Spread the word and share the love 🙏

If you enjoyed this article, consider sharing it with your friends and followers on social media. Your support means the world to us. 💖 Click on the social share icons below and let others discover the insights, tips, and inspiration you found here. Together, we can create a community of like-minded individuals who practice mindfulness and Stoicism.

👉 Remember, a simple click can make a big difference!

Summary of How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh

Summary of How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh

Part of his Mindfulness Essentials series, in How To Fight, Thich Nhat Hanh teaches us to resolve conflict by watering the roots—by tending to the source of tension in our relationships. Too often, we blame the other person in interpersonal conflict. We point fingers because we have misunderstood aspects of our own suffering and craving. Nhat Hanh gives us the tools to take care of our own suffering in a way that ripples outward, eventually soothing the suffering of others and smoothing our relationships. In this summary of How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh, I’ll share what I believe are the most practical takeaways.

This post contains affiliate links, which help us keep the blog afloat. Click here for more information.

Summary of How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh

 

The problem with how we engage with conflict is that we’re too focused on fighting with the other person rather than understanding our own feelings about the situation. This is like running after the person who set your house on fire rather than returning home to put out the flames. 

 

When we feel anger boiling up inside us, the first thing to do is pause. Stop and return to your breathing. Refrain from doing or saying anything under this condition.

 

The ability to pause in a moment of anger is profound. It gives us the opportunity to spread compassion and understanding in the world rather than anger and suffering.

 

Focusing on the breath amidst the grip of anger is not an act of suppression. It is an act of awareness. When we recognize our anger, we can embrace it with gentle understanding.

 

Mindfulness allows us to stop wrestling with our anger and simply say hello to it.

Loving speech is the way to navigate difficult interpersonal situations.

 

Finding stillness for yourself is critical for developing the kind of mindful awareness needed to pause during an interpersonal conflict. 

The pursuit of balance podcast year end sale, save 60%

Loving speech can (and often does) mean apologizing without the need to explain or justify.

 

Loving speech also means telling the truth and speaking in a way that inspires hope, joy, and confidence in others. 

 

Before reconciliation with another can begin, you first need to develop an intimate understanding of your own feelings.

 

Victim number two: Remember that another person’s anger or resentment toward you is first caused by their own suffering. Because that person doesn’t know how to handle their suffering, they remain the first victim of it. You are only victim number two.

 

Killing anger: We kill our anger by smiling at it. We hold it tenderly, rather than rejecting it. This is a means of transforming anger rather than suppressing it. 

 

I hope you enjoyed this summary of How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh. For more book summaries, click here to check out our book summaries playlist on YouTube

 

Click here to learn more about or purchase How To Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh on Amazon.

 

Discover the other books in this series on Amazon: 

 

  1. How To Sit
  2. How To Eat
  3. How To Love
  4. How To Walk
  5. How To Relax
  6. How To See
  7. How To Smile
  8. How To Connect
  9. How To Focus

 

Guided Sleep Meditation: A Stoic Approach to Restful Nights

Sleep may just be the most important input to human health, yet it often eludes us. I’ve certainly had my struggles with sleep. With all the rushing, scrolling, and multitasking we do, it’s no wonder many struggle to find the calm needed to drift into restorative...

Introduction To Stoicism And Mindfulness

If you're new to mindfulness or Stoicism, we hope you'll find these articles written as introductory resources useful. We aim to answer questions like "What is mindfulness?" and "How can I begin practicing Stoicism?" We hope something here will set you off on your...

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses...

Where Buddhism And Modern Psychology Converge On Mental Wellness

When the average non-Buddhist westerner thinks of Buddhism, they often think of meditation, kindness, and monks with shaved heads in orange robes. But what lies beneath these surface-level artifacts is profound understanding. Few wisdom traditions have delivered as...

Karma In Buddhism: Sowing The Seeds Of Love

In modern times, we use the word karma in many ways. ‘Ain’t karma a bitch’—meaning what ‘Goes around, comes around.’ It can also refer to the Golden Rule from the Hebrew and Christian Bible: ‘Do unto others what as you would have them do unto you.’ But, in the context...

What The Death Of Marcus Aurelius Teaches Us About Life

Marcus Aurelius died in a cold, dark place, but his last words shined bright with a message of hope: “Go to the rising sun, for I am already setting.” He delivered these words not to a beloved, but to a guard of the night’s watch in his military camp near the...

Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

  What if there was a way you could train your wisdom and insight? No tools or equipment required. No books to read. No classes to attend. All you’d need is a few minutes each day. Such a means of building a wider perspective and developing clear insight exists....

Right Mindfulness & Right Concentration Of The Eightfold Path

If I were to define Zen Buddhism, I would do so in two four-word sentences:   Absolute attention is prayer. Compassion for all beings.   “Zen teaches nothing. It merely enables us to wake up and become aware. It does not teach; it points. The truth of Zen is...

The Three Jewels Of The Tao: Embracing The Way Of Water

Well, the first challenge in understanding the Tao is its definition. Translated literally, 'The Tao' means 'The Way'. The very first verse of this ancient teaching warns that it’s useless to try to define or name The Tao: The Tao that can be toldIs not the eternal...

21 Human Performance Tips For Busy People

To say my life is busy is an understatement. Writing this blog is my passion. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But writing the blog, two weekly newsletters, and a book is a tall order. There is no team, there are no editors, web developers, graphic designers, or...

Summary of The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday

Summary of The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday

How can a problem be an advantage? In The Obstacle Is The Way, Ryan Holiday shows us how we can turn challenges into opportunities by developing the right mindset. This is not a new idea. Nearly 2000 years ago, Marcus Aurelius said, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”  Through his unique blend of inspirational storytelling and ancient Stoic philosophy, Holiday guides us to better understand our relationship with adversity, pain, perseverance, and resilience. In this summary of The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday, I’ll share what I believe are the most practical takeaways.

This post contains affiliate links, which help us keep the blog afloat. Click here for more information.

Summary of The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday

 

Process focus is essential to working through or around obstacles. Break challenges into smaller tasks and work on them mindfully one by one.

 

Focus on finishing. When applying process focus, a useful technique is to identify small bits that need to be finished, and work with singular focus to finish them one at a time.

 

When something or someone moves against you, the best thing to do is accept it. The Stoics called this The Art of Acquiescence. It teaches us to accept things that are beyond our control rather than fighting them. It is not, however, passive acceptance—it is not giving up. The Art of Acquiescence is accepting the obstacle so that we can find another way around

 

Interjecting your ego into a tough situation only makes it tougher. Without ego getting in the way, there are no good or bad situations; only situations.

 

Hardships can become a source of strength. One way to flip hardship on its head is to have a purpose bigger than yourself. Then, when you’re feeling broken, you can keep going because the desired outcome is not for you, but for the betterment of others.

 

Most obstacles can be deciphered by answering this question: “Will I let this break me?” If you choose to respond ‘No’, then you will find a way.

 

Creativity and patience will help you immensely in surmounting obstacles. There is almost always a path forward. Sometimes, we just need the right perception or more time to see it.

 

Many obstacles can be solved before you even encounter them. Triumph over challenge comes in the planning phase. Look for ways to mitigate and avoid, but, ultimately, be absolutely sure that your goal is bigger than any obstacle that you may encounter.

The pursuit of balance podcast year end sale, save 60%

Remember that overcoming this obstacle today may teach you the skills to never need to face that same or similar obstacle again in the future.

 

We should always expect that there will be obstacles. We also understand that obstacles can actually empower rather than impede us. Sometimes, there are hidden opportunities within an obstacle. Other times, calling upon our inner resources to remove or bypass the obstacle teaches us new lessons about ourselves or reminds us of our strength. 

 

Struggle can actually raise the ceiling on our abilities. Psychologists call it adversarial growth and post-traumatic growth. 

 

Summary of The Obstacle Is The Way: Popular Quotes 

 

“The path of least resistance is a terrible teacher.”

 

“Focus on the moment, not the monsters that may or may not be up ahead.”

 

“Where the head goes, the body follows. Perception precedes action. Right action follows the right perspective.”

 

I hope you enjoyed this summary of The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday. For more book summaries, click here to check out our book summaries playlist on YouTube

 

Click here to learn more about or purchase The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holiday

Guided Sleep Meditation: A Stoic Approach to Restful Nights

Sleep may just be the most important input to human health, yet it often eludes us. I’ve certainly had my struggles with sleep. With all the rushing, scrolling, and multitasking we do, it’s no wonder many struggle to find the calm needed to drift into restorative...

Introduction To Stoicism And Mindfulness

If you're new to mindfulness or Stoicism, we hope you'll find these articles written as introductory resources useful. We aim to answer questions like "What is mindfulness?" and "How can I begin practicing Stoicism?" We hope something here will set you off on your...

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses...

Where Buddhism And Modern Psychology Converge On Mental Wellness

When the average non-Buddhist westerner thinks of Buddhism, they often think of meditation, kindness, and monks with shaved heads in orange robes. But what lies beneath these surface-level artifacts is profound understanding. Few wisdom traditions have delivered as...

Karma In Buddhism: Sowing The Seeds Of Love

In modern times, we use the word karma in many ways. ‘Ain’t karma a bitch’—meaning what ‘Goes around, comes around.’ It can also refer to the Golden Rule from the Hebrew and Christian Bible: ‘Do unto others what as you would have them do unto you.’ But, in the context...

What The Death Of Marcus Aurelius Teaches Us About Life

Marcus Aurelius died in a cold, dark place, but his last words shined bright with a message of hope: “Go to the rising sun, for I am already setting.” He delivered these words not to a beloved, but to a guard of the night’s watch in his military camp near the...

Zen Meditation: How To Stop And Reflect For Wisdom 

  What if there was a way you could train your wisdom and insight? No tools or equipment required. No books to read. No classes to attend. All you’d need is a few minutes each day. Such a means of building a wider perspective and developing clear insight exists....

Right Mindfulness & Right Concentration Of The Eightfold Path

If I were to define Zen Buddhism, I would do so in two four-word sentences:   Absolute attention is prayer. Compassion for all beings.   “Zen teaches nothing. It merely enables us to wake up and become aware. It does not teach; it points. The truth of Zen is...

The Three Jewels Of The Tao: Embracing The Way Of Water

Well, the first challenge in understanding the Tao is its definition. Translated literally, 'The Tao' means 'The Way'. The very first verse of this ancient teaching warns that it’s useless to try to define or name The Tao: The Tao that can be toldIs not the eternal...

21 Human Performance Tips For Busy People

To say my life is busy is an understatement. Writing this blog is my passion. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But writing the blog, two weekly newsletters, and a book is a tall order. There is no team, there are no editors, web developers, graphic designers, or...

Mindful Movement Is A Life-And-Death Matter

Mindful Movement Is A Life-And-Death Matter

There’s nothing like a drastic, life-changing event to test your practice. I recently became a father. Being a new parent of an infant has its ups and downs. The lows come mostly from lack of sleep, but also from second guessing everything from when, what, where, who, and why… The highs—the moments of absolute peace and joy—give me the energy to get through the lows. My practices of mindfulness and Stoicism have helped immensely through both the good and the bad. One aspect of mindfulness in particular has helped me more than anything else: mindful movement. Late Zen Buddhist monk and mindfulness teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh describes mindful movement as a life-or-death matter: 

 

“Every act must be carried out in mindfulness. Each act is a rite, a ceremony. Does the word ‘rite’ seem too solemn? I use that word in order to jolt you into the realization of the life-and-death matter of awareness.”

 

Our ability to live depends on this

 

I love that he uses the word ‘rite’ to describe how we should approach all physical tasks with more presence, care, and dedication. It implies that there is something special hiding within our mundane tasks and routines

 

Having an infant has made this abundantly clear to me. My physical interactions with him really matter. They are life-and-death, in a sense. If I’m careless or distracted while holding him, then I could harm him. If I’m thinking ahead about the email I need to send while changing his diaper, then I’m missing a precious opportunity to simply be with him, to talk to him, to comfort him.

 

Our ability to live depends on our capacity for mindful movement, because life happens while doing the dishes. Life happens while brushing snow off your car. Life happens while peeling a carrot. If we skim over these moments, we let large chunks of life pass us by. Where do they go? They’re swept away by thoughts of the past or future. We never get this time back. The remedy is not sitting meditation. The remedy is mindful movement.

 

What is mindful movement? 

 

Mindful movement, also known as mindfulness of task, is present-moment awareness while performing a physical movement. The object of focus is the movement itself. There are a multitude of mundane activities that can be made into beautiful life experiences if we just apply mindful movement. If we enter into physical tasks with the intention to practice mindfulness, slow down a bit, take great care with our movements, and appreciate what we’re doing, we can unlock a whole realm of experience that was previously obscured by our autopilot mode of rushing and thinking ahead. 

This post contains affiliate links, which help us keep the blog afloat. Click here for more information.

Women doing yoga to represent an article about mindful movement

How to practice mindful movement 

 

Get yourself a physical reminder that you’ll engage with almost as soon as you wake up in the morning. This will remind you of your intention to practice mindful movement throughout the day. It could be anything. It could be a small ornament that normally sits on your bookshelf. Instead, place it on your nightstand. This way, it’s there for you in the morning to serve as your reminder. My reminder is a beaded bracelet, which was a gift from my parents-in-law. Putting it on in the morning is a small ceremony. I do it slowly. I recall my intentions for the day, including the intention to practice mindful movement. 

 

Then, select a routine morning activity to be your first opportunity to practice mindful movement. Don’t try to introduce a new activity for the purpose of this practice. Choose something that is already part of your morning routine. For me, this is my morning coffee. I prepare it slowly. I actually take time to smell the coffee as I’m preparing it. Then, as I’m taking my first few sips, I look out my kitchen window to see if I can spot any small birds hopping from branch to branch. The good thing about this particular activity (coffee) is that I’m never going to skip it.

 

Having this reliable chance to practice mindful movement soon after waking is critical because it sets the wheels in motion for a mindful day. 

The pursuit of balance podcast year end sale, save 60%

Never rush 

 

One of the biggest hindrances to mindful movement and mindfulness in general is rushing. Personally, I struggle with this. I always have perhaps a bit too much on my plate, and I’m always looking for ways to optimize or save time. This leads me to rush. I find myself clumsily knocking things about in the kitchen because I’m moving too fast. But, at least I catch myself doing it. 

 

In many forms of meditation, the primary guidance is to observe the breath, and when we get distracted by thought, we return to the breath peacefully. The same applies to our physical movements. When we find ourselves rushing, we simply acknowledge and return to a slower pace

 

Rushing is not only a blocker to mindfulness but it’s also usually pointless. Sure, I may save 45 seconds by cleaning the kitchen quickly after making dinner, but then my whole nervous system is jacked up. Then, when I sit down at my computer to do some work, I’ll probably make a mistake because my mind is still racing ahead. The mistake will likely cost me much more than 45 seconds. 

 

“Restore your attention or bring it to a new level by dramatically slowing down whatever you’re doing.”

– Sharon Salzberg, Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation

 

Don’t multitask 

 

Multitasking is a myth. A more accurate label for what we normally call multitasking is task-switching. However, this is the most cognitively taxing thing you can do. This understanding comes from Amishi Jha’s wonderful book, which presents her research on the relationship between focus, attention, and mindfulness. The book is called Peak Mind: Find Your Focus, Own Your Attention

 

Expanding your mindful movement practice

 

The foundations of mindful movement are intention and slow movement. Once you begin to feel comfortable with these fundamentals, you can begin applying this practice to all kinds of routine activities, such as: 

 

Preparing food: Cooking is an excellent opportunity to practice mindful movement. It’s a sensual activity. Allow the fragrances and textures to pull you into the present moment. It’s an activity that we should appreciate more. We should all remind ourselves how grateful we are for a fridge full of food. 

 

Eating: At least once a week, eat a meal without distraction. Chew slowly. Really enjoy the food. Sometimes, I like to do this with a cheat meal like a cheeseburger or pizza. This kind of food is really delicious, but not so good for me, so I can at least enjoy it mindfully as part of my practice. 

 

Doing dishes: I can’t offer better advice than Thich Nhat Hanh’s on washing the dishes mindfully: 

 

“Wash the dishes relaxingly, as though each bowl is an object of contemplation. Consider each bowl as sacred. Follow your breath to prevent your mind from straying. Do not try to hurry to get the job over with. Consider washing the dishes the most important thing in life. Washing the dishes is meditation. If you cannot wash the dishes in mindfulness, neither can you meditate while sitting in silence.”

 

Typing and clicking: Our time is spent increasingly engaged with digital information on our devices. It’s imperative to bring mindfulness to our interaction with the digital world. The internet is practically designed to distract, persuade, and influence us. A keyboard and mouse allow us to perform cognitive tasks unnaturally fast. How many misunderstood emails have been sent simply because the author’s fingers were moving faster than their mind? Slow it down. Be conscious of what you’re consuming on the internet. 

 

Housework: Cleaning and tidying your living space can be a light and pleasant task if we take a mindful approach. Break down house cleaning into small chunks. Don’t think of it as cleaning a whole room. Clean the table. Then dust the shelves. Then sweep the floor. 

 

Washing your hands: Water can serve as a reminder to practice mindfulness of task, whether while drinking it or washing with it. Water is refreshing. It revitalizes the body. Also, we can be grateful for the fact that we have an abundance of clean water. Washing your hands is an opportune moment for your mindful movement practice because it’s something you do many times throughout the day.

 

Showering: I struggle with this one. My default mode in the shower is to think. I tend to get ambitious in the shower—planning and getting excited about projects. My mind tends to go everywhere except to the present moment. But, I’m working to bring more mindfulness to my showers, because the shower is the perfect place for mindful movement. We should make showering more of a self-care ritual. It’s an excellent time to relax. We can slow down and smell the fragrant soap, and massage our neck and scalp as we shampoo. We should take great care as we wash ourselves, recognizing that this is an act of care.

 

Walking: It’s a bit unrealistic to expect to turn literally all of our walking into mindful walking. When I get up to grab a drink from the fridge, I’m probably thinking about the drink and not so much about the connection between the soles of my feet and the floor. But, when we go for a walk outside, we should attempt to walk with mindful awareness. We can focus on the connection between the earth and the soles of our feet. We can maintain an upright posture. Above all, we can slow down. Thich Nhat Hanh often urged his students to embrace the power of mindful walking. 

 

Related: Thich Nhat Hanh Walking Meditation

Woman doing yoga to represent an article about mindful movement exercises

Make mindful movement a habit

 

There is another foundation of mindful movement in addition to intention and slowing down. Memory is also a key component. Mindfulness traditions like Buddhism place great importance on memory. Memory is part of mindfulness, because without memory, we forget to practice in the first place. This is understandable. With busy lives, it’s nearly impossible to remain mindful all the time. 

 

The power of habit lets us outsource some of the need to remember to be mindful. Creating true habits allows us to enter into mindful awareness more automatically. 

 

You can try making some of the activities shared in this article, or other ones of your choosing, into mindfulness habits by following a widely accepted formula for building habits.

 

watch the pursuit of balance podcast now

The habit loop

 

I first learned of the habit loop from Charles Duhigg’s book The Power of Habit. The habit loop describes the working parts of all habits in an incredibly simple three-staged loop. All habits consist of a

 

Cue: This is a prompt, stimulus, or reminder of some kind that calls us to action. 

 

Routine: This can be a single action, but it’s usually a series of actions done in a routine order. This is the behavior you’re trying to turn into a habit. 

 

Reward: There has to be some light at the end of the tunnel for the behavior to become a habit. 

 

We can use this understanding to make mindful movement more habitual. Take tea, for example. Finishing the dishes after dinner could serve as the cue to make tea. Then, we can build the behavior of mindfully making the tea into a short routine. We can establish an order; first boiling the water, then preparing the tea leaves, then reaching into the cupboard for the cups. Finally, the reward can be the renewed awareness itself—the comforting feeling of actually having lived this moment. The reward can also be a nice cup of tea. 

 

“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the whole earth revolves—slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future. Live the actual moment. Only this actual moment is life. Don’t be attached to the future. Don’t worry about things you have to do. Don’t think about getting up or taking off to do anything. Don’t think about ‘departing’.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh, The Miracle of Mindfulness

 

The final word

 

Establish a morning prompt to remind you to set your intention. Remember the foundations of mindful movement: intention, slowing down, and remembering to practice. Have at least one routine activity to perform mindfully in the morning. Then, begin experimenting with your typical actions throughout the day. Can you make them more ceremonious? Is there meaning or a chance to be grateful wrapped up inside certain activities? If yes, carefully unwrap it. Use your knowledge about habit building to establish cues, routines, and rewards to make mindful movement more habitual.

 

Finally, remember that most of us have been conditioning ourselves throughout our entire lives to perform mundane tasks while thinking ahead or behind. Mindfulness is a practice that requires some dedication, training, and effort. Despite your intentions, there will be times that you forget or fail to practice. When this happens, don’t beat yourself up. 

Guided Sleep Meditation: A Stoic Approach to Restful Nights

Sleep may just be the most important input to human health, yet it often eludes us. I’ve certainly had my struggles with sleep. With all the rushing, scrolling, and multitasking we do, it’s no wonder many struggle to find the calm needed to drift into restorative...

Debunking 8 Common Misconceptions About Stoicism: What It Really Means To Be A Stoic

I blame the English dictionary for a good chunk of the misconceptions about Stoicism. Look up the word ‘stoic’ there and you’ll find something like, “a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.” Or maybe it’s the wealth of...

The Three Stoic Disciplines: Desire, Action, and Assent

Stoicism is a guiding framework in my life, but so is business. I can think of no better school of thought than business when it comes to manifesting ideas into reality—big, complex ideas. Schools of business and businesses in practice are fountains of knowledge when...

Introduction To Stoicism And Mindfulness

If you're new to mindfulness or Stoicism, we hope you'll find these articles written as introductory resources useful. We aim to answer questions like "What is mindfulness?" and "How can I begin practicing Stoicism?" We hope something here will set you off on your...

Improve Your Focus With Mindfulness- And Science-Based Protocols

I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s important to lead with it here: mindfulness is not a means to an end. Mindfulness is a means to a means—a way of waking up to life. Without mindfulness, so much of life escapes us. Without mindfulness, we’re governed by impulses...

What Is Modern Stoicism? An Introduction & Essential Practices

In the eyes of some, the people I’m about to introduce don’t belong in a discussion about modern Stoicism. None of them are self-proclaimed Stoics. But they do display extreme commitment to the four Stoic virtues: courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice.   ...

Where Buddhism And Modern Psychology Converge On Mental Wellness

When the average non-Buddhist westerner thinks of Buddhism, they often think of meditation, kindness, and monks with shaved heads in orange robes. But what lies beneath these surface-level artifacts is profound understanding. Few wisdom traditions have delivered as...

How To Speak Like A Stoic

If you’ve mastered the art of peaceful speech, then it is likely that you have a very firm grasp over your guiding principles. If you have mastered the art of the pause in speech, then it is likely that you have clear convictions and great self-confidence. Truthful,...

Karma In Buddhism: Sowing The Seeds Of Love

In modern times, we use the word karma in many ways. ‘Ain’t karma a bitch’—meaning what ‘Goes around, comes around.’ It can also refer to the Golden Rule from the Hebrew and Christian Bible: ‘Do unto others what as you would have them do unto you.’ But, in the context...

What The Death Of Marcus Aurelius Teaches Us About Life

Marcus Aurelius died in a cold, dark place, but his last words shined bright with a message of hope: “Go to the rising sun, for I am already setting.” He delivered these words not to a beloved, but to a guard of the night’s watch in his military camp near the...